Friday, 11 March 2011
A match made in heaven or a crutch? I recently read an article about moms who drink to cope with the stress of being a stay at home mom or working outside the home. It was pretty scary that so many moms feel that they have to drink to cope with all the pressures of simply being a mom.
I'm not judging them. I look forward to a margarita and a few hours out with a friend. But that's not the same as drinking to cope. It is a good escape from the monotony, irritation and seclusion that being a SAHM to a 2 and 3 year old can sometimes bring.
When my friend told me about a great doctor who prescribed her valium, I was a little shocked. I thought, "Wow, valium...isn't that a pretty heavy drug to prescribe?" She went on to tell me how it has helped her out so much to cope with the stresses of her day. She said that her marriage was better because she wasn't angry and moody by the time her husband got home.
Another one of her friends who is also taking valium said that it really helped her out too. It made me curious. I found that the practice of giving housewives valium started in the 50's when many women were having a hard time coping with life, felt dissatisfied, anxious and depressed. Women also tend to have more mental disorders than men and are more prone to anxiety/depression.
So now I'm wondering, are there a lot of moms out there who are taking valium or any other sort of anti-anxiety/anti-depressants to help them? It is so much better than drinking alcohol (and possibly having to drive your kids to practice afterward), but is it making you coast through life in a sort of happy haze? Parenting is not easy, but I'm not sure that this is the best route.
I, myself, have considered going to the doctor for help because I, too, have been suffering from some anxiety and depression. I exercise 5 days a week and eat relatively healthy so that's not part of the problem.
Looking back, I actually wished my mother had been on some sort of prescription. She is a hard working and strong willed woman but sometimes life really did get the best of her and she would completely freak out. My mother in-law had to commit herself for a short time because she had a break down.
I know that there are many other incidents of this where motherhood caused immense stress, almost too much to handle.
I'd like to hear from some moms who have had to get help (prescription & non) to see their perspectives. I'm wondering - is it better to take some preventative measures? If I had a breakdown, how would that affect my children? Is it a good or bad idea to have some chemical (prescription) help for a little while?