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Thursday, August 07, 2008

  • Tons of changes going on...

    so it is hard to keep this thing up.

    • Moved into a new rental house, new rules to enforce, new cleaning routine to get used too, new budget to follow due to higher rent.
    • Getting married in 8 days.  In addition to planning the wedding and the reception, I need to arrange sitters for 4 kids for 4 days.
    • Surfer will be doing his 10th grade year of high school here at home on the computer with a program called Virtual Academy.
    • I will only be doing daycare for one child, and start a new job teaching parent ed in the mornings.
    • Little Man starts pre-K 5 mornings a week.
    • Punky starts middle school.

    it is difficult to stay sane amid all the changes- but they are good changes!

Friday, July 18, 2008

  • Currently Reading
    Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation
    By Becky A. Bailey
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    Week One Loving Guidance Program

    Attitude Shift: Harnessing the Power of Perception

    Reason: To own your own upset.

    Discipline Skill: Composure

    Value: Integrity

    • Notice how your thoughts create your feelings.
    • Listen to how often you blame others.
    • When you are upset say "I feel angry and it's okay."
    • Remind yourself, "Whomever is in charge of my feelings is in charge of me.
    • When you are upset you have a problem.

    Composure: Living the values you want your child to develop

    Breathe deeply and decide that you are going to stick with these exercises.  Maintaining composure is an option you always have available to you.  Even when you lose composure, in the next moment it can be yours again.  You may feel ready to explode, but you can breathe deeply choose to stay calm and see the situation differently.  Self control is a moment by moment decision.  Remember discipline yourself first and your children second.  Live the values you want your children to develop.  It allows you and your child to live with integrity.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

  • Update on the surgery today

    Here is the before pic you guys asked for:  (after shots will after come later.)  The leg looked way worse after a day of walking.  The thrombosis would swell as big as a baseball.

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    At 9:30 we started.  I was on a bed with my head way higher than my leg- they did an ultrasound and asked if I was nervous since my veins were constricted.  So they had the dr come in and reassure me and they played soft music and they applied some cream to my leg to make the veins open up. 
    They draped my leg and soaped me up.  Then the dr injected me with novacaine- which was painful, but that was the worst of it.  After the novacaine set in the dr made an inscision on my inner knee.  They then threaded a catheter up my vein- that felt really really weird, but not painful.  Then they threaded up two more things- as they were doing it - it felt uncomfortable, but not too bad- but for whatever reason I started to feel hot and like I was going to pass out- so they lowered my head and that helped.
    Then they started injecting my leg all along the vein with a saline anesthesia mix- a whole bag full went into the top inner side of my leg (the dr said it was to numb the area and protect the tissues from the laser.)  Then I had to put on goggles and the laser was set off- I felt nothing- but bizarrly, I got an awful nasty taste in my mouth kinda like garlic- they said this has to do with the lazers- weird. 
    All the catheters were removed, my leg was wrapped REALLY tightly- and then the compression hose from thigh to toe was put over that.  I need to leave that on till Sat night.  No swimming / hottub for 3 weeks.
    I walked out- but it wasn't easy because my leg was numb, and wrapped up.  I was given vicodin for the pain and they told me to take it asap- so that when the anestisia wears off- I don't feel pain. 
    So far so good- that side of my leg is still huge from all the saline injected into it- only dull ache. 

    Oh and the exact name of the procedure is:  "Closure of the saphenous vein using the 940 diode laser."

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

  • Currently Reading
    Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation
    By Becky A. Bailey
    see related

    Challenging myself...

    I have been reading Easy to Love Difficult ti Dicsipline by Becky Bailey.  It is an eye opening book, and in it there are some great points.  It has a 7 week challenge that I am going to be doing.  I will post the challenge here and then update throughout the week as to how I am doing.  I need the accountability- without it I fall back into my lazy parenting bad habits.

    Seven Powers for Self Control

    1.   The Power of Perception:  No one can make you angry without your permission.
    2.   The Power of Attention:  What you focus on, you get more of.
    3.   The Power of Free Will:  The only person you can make change is yourself.
    4.   The Power of Unity:  Focus on connecting instead of trying to be “special.”
    5.   The Power of Love:  See the best in one another.
    6.   The Power of Acceptance:  This moment is as it is.
    7.   The Power of Intention:  Conflict is an opportunity to teach.



    Seven Basic Discipline Skills

    1.   Composure:  Living the values you want your child to develop. 
    This teaches integrity.
    2.   Encouragement:  Honoring children so they will honor you. 
    This teaches interdependence. 
    3.   Assertiveness:  Saying no and being heard. 
    This teaches respect. 
    4.   Choices:  Building self-esteem and willpower. 
    This teaches commitment. 
    5.   Positive Intent:  Turning resistance into cooperation. 
    This teaches cooperation.
    6.   Empahty:  Handling the fussing and the fits. 
    This teaches compassion.
    7.   Consequences:  Helping children learn from their mistakes. 
    This teaches responsibility.

Monday, July 14, 2008

  • Surgery for me this Thurs.

    I will be getting Laser Phlebectomy done this Thurs on my right leg.  Basically one of the vein that runs all the way from my inner thigh down to my ankle is damaged to the point that it is 3X bigger than it should be.  (It has been this way since my pregnancy with my 9 yo).  Instead of traveling back up to my heart it causes blood to pool in the front of my calf and has formed a large painful thrombosis.  Due to ins issues, pregnancies, nursing etc- I have just lived with the pain and wore a pressure stocking.  But on Thurs they will be threading a laser down from the top of my thigh- into the vein- all the way to where it ends at my ankle- as they pull it out the lazer will "kill" the vein. 
    I am pretty nervous- I have never done an "elective" procedure before.  The paperwork says I cane do light walking the same day as the surgery, and need to keep the compression dressing on for 3 days.  And the huge full leg compression stocking for 3-4 weeks.  No spa or pool for 2 weeks. 

    I hope it works to stop the pain- cause the recovery stuff is going to be a pain in my rear.

     

    I should take some before and after shots huh?  But does anyone really want to see my gross, throbbing, ugly, thrombosis?