Being a mom isn’t easy! You are not just taking care of yourself, but you are taking care of others. As women in general we put ourselves last on our to-do list. We focus on everything and everyone around us before we give ourselves the time of day.
At times we may even walk out on the street with our pajamas and house slippers on because we are so focused on the tasks at hand, but let me tell you this you are putting your own well-being at risk.
THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON’T INCLUDE YOUR NEEDS…
I read a very interesting article titled: "Is India Doing Enough For Its Children?". The first article paints a very sad picture to the reader, stating that a 17 year old mother was taken to a wooden shack moments after giving birth to her premature son. Since she belonged to a poor community, which believes a woman to be impure moments after giving birth, neither the poor woman, nor her son received any medical treatment, causing the newborn to die just two month after birth.
Even though India has improved economically over the years, the article points out that they hold a shocking 20% of the world’s mortality in children.
Even more shockingly, the article points out, half of these deaths occur within the first month of birth. Since both, the mothers and children lack nutrition, this is one of the main reasons for such high mortality rates.
In the recording, it was shown how the girls got crushed and just left on the ground like some roadkill. People pass by and see the girl, but they don't help her at all, she's just lying on the floor bleeding to death slowly dying. After a long time of just lying there and dying, a woman is shown in the video that picks her up and takes her to the hospital. Sadly it was too late, the child died.
When I was younger, like high school and college younger, I dressed up every day. I had my hair done, make up perfect and my clothes were always matching from head to toe including purse. I was young and had money to spend. I spent $100.00 per pair of Lucky brand jean, I wore nothing but Dillard's and The Buckle and as long as I kept my grade point average a 4.0, my grandparents paid my Buckle credit card every month.
Then I got married and now have 4 kids. I cant remember the last time I bought ME something. It seems like when I go to the Mall, I see something for everyone else and don't get myself anything. There have been many times my husband has taken me shopping and said buy whatever and I walk out with bags full.....of clothes for my kids.
We spent longer in the NICU with our daughter than most of the families I met had to. We dealt with surgeries, lung collapsing and multiple other near death problems but we survived and, as a family, are more than just rock solid. I stayed away from my husband out of state in a Ronald McDonald house for 3 months across from the hospital we ended her stay at.
While I was there, I ran across so many couples who failed. They were constantly in drama, cheating, drugs and so many other problems but I did see a few things. I met one couple who's son was almost 2 years and had been on a vent his whole life and they were a very strong couple (at least stronger than the others who were talking divorce right and left). I'm going to post again when I think of more tips but the ones I can think of right off the bat are things that I'm glad I did because it has kept me sane and able to take care of my daughter better than a lot of the moms I met.
One thing that I really want to do differently from my parents is stress the importance of physical activity. My mom didn't start exercising until I was in high school and that was only because she wanted to lose weight, not because it is the heart healthy thing to do.
We have them at The Little Gym for a combined age class tumbling/gymnastics class. We got into gymnastics because it was the activity starting at the youngest age in Charleston, and we needed that outlet since the girls were always with me or with a nanny--I wanted them to get used to having authority figures other than me or the nanny. More Here...
I am 22 and married. My husband and I have only been married a little over 6 months (together 3 years.) He is 24 and works as a police officer. We do fine financially, we pay the bills and such, but have a very modest savings account, though we are reforming our spending ways for the better. We have a house we rent in a nice area with a ton of extra space (we use the second living area as an office and have two empty bedrooms that we basically just store junk in.) We're within ten minutes of both our parents (both our Mom's are retired and at home), who would all be pretty excited at the prospect of a little one and be happy to help with free babysitting.
Though there are hang-ups, which make me feel as if this baby fever is a battle between my head and my heart!
The twins are now 2.5 months old. We live 15 minutes from my in-laws. They have been to see the twins a total of THREE times, this includes Christmas. Sad, just sad. My MIL kept telling people how we just needed to hire someone to help out since she works and can't help out a lot. I figured she just doesn't want to help. So I never asked her to come over and help.
After my mom left from helping, we hired someone, to my MIL we hired someone since she seemed to be telling everyone that's just what we needed to do as if it was any of her business or she really knew what we need as a family. But, my MIL hasn't been over a single time since we hired someone. I DON'T want her to come over to help. I want her to come over to be a grandmother, to hear how excited the girls get to see her, to develop a loving relationship with her grandchildren.