Friday, 01 February 2013
I saw Paperman last year before Wreck-It Ralph started. It was cute and reeked of Disney. While I enjoyed every second of it, my mind mulled over the romantic clichés.
This ostensibly romantic experience is found throughout Disney fiction. People are brought together by fate or external magic, true love and finding the one. I've found this concept particularly prevalent in young women, too. It's an extra unnecessary stress for wooing: All must be perfect or else it wasn't meant to be. This leads to missed chances and unfortunate matches, such as naive women pairing with particularly manipulative, temporary men. Young women end good relationships because magic buzz shifted to sincere appreciation. Adult women devalue their mate for adding clarity. Special moments are expected rather than cherished... misplacing credit.
Men are not immune to this, myself included.
Disney has helped to establish a corrupted social system where men must either enjoy the chase and weave of seduction, suffer it, be alone, or do whatever is necessary to find more sensible available women. Women who were not raised into emulating fairytale princesses.
Forgive me if I made it sound like women were the culprits, rather than the victims. I view these women more as caught in sacrificing for religious or cult reasons.
And there's doubtless demand for this fantasy, as with other illusionment. Perhaps that's why Paperman centers on a man chasing his unicorn - Disney was equalizing gender markets.
Just a thought.
Do you think this fairy tale complex is the natural result of overexposure to Disney princess stories? Do we harm our daughters and their future relationships by allowing or encouraging the princess fantasy?