It's only been a few days since World AIDS Day 2012. This is a day close to my heart. Allow me to start from the beginning.
My father contracted AIDS when he was in his twenties, from doing hard drugs. The kicker is that he contracted it from his best friend, because they had shared the same needle. To think, that one small decision to use a different needle, and perhaps my father would still be here to see my son grow up. Growing up, my father tried to be the best he could be, but most times he would hole up in his bedroom with a case of beer instead. Looking back, I can see that he was probably incredibly depressed, and understandably so.
When I first found out about my father's illness, I was only 9 years old. It was completely by accident too. I caught the tail-end of a phone conversation that my mother was having with someone. After that, I fell into a depression, at nine years old. I was put on heavy duty anti-depressants, which only ended up messing me up more in the long run. But I digress.
My whole point to this is my wondering about what age is appropriate to tell my child about his grandfather? Obviously, not anytime soon, as he is only two years old, but I wonder when is the best age to really sit him down and talk to him in depth about what happened, and the dangers of drugs
? My sister and I learned the hardest lesson there was to learn about drugs. It's such an incredibly delicate topic, and I know what I went through when I was just a child. What do you think is the best age to talk to a child about their grandparent's death?