Friday, 23 November 2012
From Momaroo reader itsvitalx:
As the holiday season is now upon us, a lot of people are going to be seeing their relatives, in-laws, etc. These experiences can bring a lot of different feelings. From happiness at seeing family members you haven't seen in a while to feeling tragically depressed, wishing you could barricade yourself away while they visit. Or, another concern: What if you have just started your family and you have a newborn, who you know is going to be jostled around, picked up, practically harassed and also possibly... not allowed to sleep? While I do not have my own child or newborn, I've had a first-hand experience of these horrors recently.
My brother and his beautiful wife just had a baby girl a little over a month ago. She is the image of health and is just darling. I love this little girl more than anything else in the entire world! All of us were expecting to have peaceful holidays this year with our new family member, but boy were we wrong!
My sister-in-law's dad (call him K) and step-mom (call her B) decided to visit for Thanksgiving. If you know anything about this pair, it is that they are literally the most horrid people to be around. I only personally met them one other time (at the wedding) and when I heard stories about them I thought my brother and his wife were exaggerating. How could they be that bad? However, upon meeting them, all these stories I was told suddenly made sense. These people are crazy!
They have been down here visiting for only a couple of days and I am honestly shocked that my sister-in-law hasn't kicked them out to the curb. They are rude, insensitive, messy, nasty and worst of all - handling the newborn too often, too aggressively, too carelessly!
When B holds the baby she does not support her head, makes movements that are too sudden and aggressive-like (not sure how else to describe it, she just kind of tosses her around to get her in the position she wants), she always gets the baby's arm caught in awkward/uncomfortable positions, and she puts her down anywhere and I mean anywhere! K isn't as bad when it comes to physically holding her, but he does something just as bad - he keeps her up! He doesn't let her sleep and blows in her face to keep her awake so he can keep playing with her.
My brother is going insane and is so furious because regardless of how many times he yells at them, they just argue and say they know how to take care of an infant! Umm, hello, no you do not! K abandoned his kids and B does not have her own. They are clueless!
Have you had to deal with relatives mistreating your newborns/children? How did/do you handle it? Is there any advice you have for me to give my brother?