Thursday, 15 November 2012
Clearly, this is purely my opinion. I will admit to the fact (and proudly so) that I DO NOT have children, but I have known a lot of people with children. I grew up in a small town where (it seemed like) half of my high school graduating class (or what was supposed to be) either had a child or was about to have a child. Sadly, (probably due to them being too young and other stuff we won't go into) a lot of the people I know are/were rather sh**** parents.
I wrote this last week I think. This was inspired after some incidents at my work.
Again, this is all my opinion. I know that not everyone will agree with me. I know that some of this doesn't apply to everyone, but I think most of us (if not all of us) could benefit from applying most of this to our child raising ways.
1. Do not leave your children alone when you are outside of your home with them.
The only two days I’ve worked so far this week, I had abandoned child drama on my shifts. Parents, not all of you (but a lot of you), don’t realize how easy it is to snatch a child without anyone noticing. “My kid is smart. They’ll kick and scream.” Um, I’m not trying to say your kid is stupid, but he definitely just walked off with three of the employees in this store WITHOUT your permission. None of us are dressed as policemen, firefighters, or doctors. I’m not saying we employees are bad people, but you and your kid don’t know that. We’re perfect strangers. We could easily have been another customer in the store who decided to walk out the front door instead of taking them to the employee break room area.
If you have to pee, bring your children with you in the bathroom. If you’re trying on clothes or something, bring your children to the dressing room. Keep them by your side. If for some reason you feel you can’t bring them with you, make sure you bring someone else along who can watch your children while you’re momentarily distracted. Also, this isn’t just for your children’s safety, it is for other customers as well. Unsupervised children tend to make large messes (throwing clothes and toys on the floor) and often like to run through the aisles (jumping in front of people with shopping carts, accidentally running into people, etc).
2. Teach your children to clean up after themselves no matter where they are.
It’s irritating when children make messes in my store and I have to clean up after them, but it’s truly maddening when they do it in front of their parents and their parents don’t do a damn thing about it! For example, a child will start pulling perfectly folded shirts off a shelf and just throw them all over the floor. Or they’ll play with toys in the toy department and leave them all over the floor. Or they’ll just knock stuff off fixtures as they walk by them. Yet, the parents keep walking like nothing happened. At least tell your child to stop! It’s incredibly rude to make such messes. Also, despite what most people think, it is NOT my job to clean up after your children. It’s my job to keep my department organized by putting out new merchandise, putting back items people leave in different departments or at customer service, and maybe picking up stuff that accidentally falls off a fixture. It is not my job to pick up after your kids because you’re too lazy to discipline them and/or to look after them.
Honestly, if this was your home would they get away with that? No, then why would you let them get away with it in public when people are watching?
Also, it doesn’t just benefit me when your kids DON’T make a mess, but the other customers as well. It’s very easy to trip over a few items that are in the middle of the aisle. Also, it’s rather difficult (and a pain in the ass) to have to dig through piles of clothes your kid created in an attempt to find something to purchase.
3. Learn to say no to your kids.
Nothing gives me a headache quite like a child screaming like a banshee does. The only kids who do that (especially in public places) are kids who learned that screaming like a demon possessed child gets them what they want. If you don’t want to buy your child a toy, tell him or her “no” and DO NOT let them carry said toy or whatever item around the store. That way they know you mean business, and they won’t leave toys all over the store for employees (or other customers for that matter) to find by falling to their death. If it comes to it, take your kid outside or in the bathroom, or just somewhere semi-private in general, and knock the s*** out them. Well, I don’t mean to beat them, but spanking does send a clear message (IMO) that a certain action is unacceptable. (On that note, I am pro-physical discipline and nothing anyone says or does will change my opinion on that.)
Seriously, start from day one with your kids. Teach them early on that screaming, throwing themselves on the floor, holding their breath, etc will not result in them getting what they want. That way we don’t have eight year olds throwing a temper tantrum like a three year old in public places (talk about embarrassing!).
4. Do not let your kids hit you.
It might seem kind of cute when they’re young, but I guarantee if you let them hit you when they’re young, they’ll do it when they’re older too. The last thing you want is to be in an abusive relationship where your kid is the psychopath. Teach your kid that there are better ways to express their anger or discontentment with you. If they go to hit you, grab their arm with enough force to stop them from hitting you and explain to them that they do not hit mommy or daddy. That it’s wrong, unacceptable behavior.
Like the “say no” thing, start from day one. As soon as they start hitting you, whether it’s three months old or three years old. My mother has told me since I was born (actually, probably before I was born! Haha) that she is my mother and that I WILL respect her. I do respect my mother and I wouldn’t dare raise a hand to her (I’m currently 20 years old ) no matter how angry I am.
Yeah, that's it (for now). Again, this is all my opinion and you don't have to agree with it.
xoxo RM <3
What do you think of these (primarily while shopping) parenting tips? Which one do you think is the most important of these 4?