Tuesday, 30 October 2012
I think that I am a fortunate woman. I have a husband who is good to me and has been pretty awesome during my pregnancy. Not every woman gets that, and not every man knows how to be around his pregnant wife. We can be crazy buckets of hormones sometimes. I can't say how much I appreciate my wonderful husband.
We had started to suspect that I was pregnant after I started feeling ill. You see, it was normal for me to have a longer time between my cycles, so that didn't tip me off right away. But when the sickness started, we were wondering if something was up. My husband helped me pick out pregnancy tests that seemed easier to understand. It was late, so we planned on using them the next day. In the morning, after he left for work or something, I decided I couldn't wait so I used one of the tests. It came out very positive. I was kind of shocked (and nervous) so I called my husband. He was sweet and asked me why I didn't wait for him. He wanted to be there for me if it was positive so that he could reassure me. I waited til he was home before taking the second test. That one changed to positive very quickly as well.
From the beginning, he was supportive, even though he and I didn't necessarily feel ready to have a little one come into our lives. That was so important to me.
In the following days, the sickness got worse and worse. I was throwing up every day and couldn't stand the smell of food cooking. If I moved too quickly, I felt like I would vomit. I am very glad that at this point in time, I was not working at a job. I don't think I could have handled it. Between the exhaustion and throwing up, and the hormones wreaking havoc on my emotions, it would have been torture to have to go somewhere to do something. During this time, my husband would peel an orange for me before I got out of bed. When he got it quick enough, sometimes I wouldn't throw up. When I threw up spaghetti in the shower, he cleaned the tub. He helped with the household chores and even made an attempt or two at making dinner. He looked up remedies for nausea and tried to get things to help. He made trips to the store when he was tired to try and find something that would make me feel better. Most of the time nothing worked. But he tried very hard. And he held me when I was in bed feeling awful.
So when I was feeling terrible, he took care of me. He showed me gentleness instead of expecting me to do all the things I did before. The house didn't look as nice as it did before. And my husband was tired from taking on extra work. But he did it.
During the beginning of the second trimester, I was still feeling ill for a while. I was getting acne and I felt like I looked more fat than pregnant. This was a hard time for me because everything about my body that I knew was changing, and I had no control over it. I didn't feel like me. I still had little energy. I was starting to get aches and pains. And I had to pee so much! I still have to, but have just gotten used to the inconvenience. Actually, the having to pee all the time started in the first trimester. It just got a little worse as the baby got bigger and started kicking my bladder.
My husband didn't try to talk me out of the weird food items that I hadn't eaten in years. He made sure to take me places with bathrooms nearby, or was willing to leave so I could pee. He worked harder and continued to care for me when my days were difficult. He took over doing the vacuuming when I couldn't do it without hurting my back.
Now I am nearing the end of my pregnancy. It really could be any day! My husband has done research and listened to all the research I dug up. He has comforted me often when I freaked out. Who wouldn't be nervous about the baby coming out of there? He has held me when I incoherently babbled about my worries. He has comforted me when all I could do was cry. He has been nice to me when I have been mean. He has been the strong one that I have been able to look up to. I feel protected by him. And when labor happens, my husband plans on being there through the difficulty.
He has prepared himself to be as useful as possible when this baby comes. He has educated himself and helped make important decisions.
All in all, my husband is quite full of awesome. I am so glad that I have him through this hard time.
How was your husband/partner during your pregnancy?