Many will see every day as a day of remembrance and awareness for pregnancy and infant loss, but today is a special day. You'll see the above image all over Facebook and other blogs. You'll read stories of how families deal with loss, how they remember, and how they'll never forget. Feel free to leave a comment and share your story of loss and of love and hope. We're all in this together.
You can find the above image on the
October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day Facebook page along with many other images that you may use as your profile picture or just to share.
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I had a miscarriage in 1999 and I think about it all the time. Haven't been able to conceive since. My life is totally empty without my baby. To all the moms who have lost a baby, I feel your pain more than you know. I haven't given up on having a baby but time is ticking for me as I am already in my mid 30s. Best wishes to all the moms who have lost a baby and are still trying to cope. It still hits me today as my baby would have been born around this time.
@boricua_chic_2008@xanga - I definitely feel you should look into adoption. There are plenty of needy babies all around the world, some literally dying for a home. I feel like once you adopt, you might just be able to conceive. All that stress & negativity are probably getting in the way of a pregnancy, since your body reacts to stress & fear without realizing the cause, & maybe subconsciously your body thinks it's not safe to get pregnant because your life is too "dangerous" for a baby. I dunno if that made sense.. but if you're not considered medically barren, I believe that once you stop worrying so much about getting pregnant, it will just happen. & the only way to accomplish this is to somehow get a baby. Maybe consider discussing this all with a therapist, to not only give you peace of mind but maybe to discuss your options as well. Anyway, I'm sorry for your loss and good luck! I so hope you have a baby one day, & whether it's yours or adopted won't matter when you hold it for the first time.
@Awake_My_Soul420@xanga - "once you stop worrying so much about getting
pregnant, it will just happen. & the only way to accomplish this is
to somehow get a baby".. I disagree.
My husband and I have been HTC for 8 long years. We have been foster parents to 11 infants in 5yrs, adopted our son and waiting to adopt our daughter, and I am still not pregnant.
The only difference with me is I have accepted it. I have not gone to our Dr about it, because I cannot handle being told its never going to happen. Im ok with not knowing.
Even though I am adopted, and I have adopted, I don't believe its the answer for everyone. Adoption is messy.
@LadyGwenivere@xanga - I did say unless you're considered medically barren. Of course I'm not saying this applies to all couples, but I also have known a couple women considered medically barren who ended up giving birth to healthy babies. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't, but it's better to figure out the problem & check out alternatives in the meantime, all the while still trying to conceive. I mean, adoption may be messy but everyone I've known who has adopted believes it was completely worth it. I also know a little baby my aunt adopted from Ethiopia that would probably be dead right now, since she was severely emaciated & had bad pneumonia when my aunt adopted her. So I just think it's worth it for all involved.
@LadyGwenivere@xanga - You've never been to the doctor at all? What if there is just a minor problem that they could help you with? I know lots of women who got pregnant with a doctor's assistance. Just a thought. :)
I am sorry for ypur loss. I miscarried when I was 16, to this day I Always wonder. As I see kids around me the age mine would have been I think a blessing on those kids. I know the paim of my loss I can only imagine yours.
May you find comfort and love from your spouce and be able to feel the loss less so you can find joy in life and love.
Let's refrain from telling others how to become mothers via medical intervention or adoption. This is a post to remember those we have lost. If you'd like to discuss adoption or your trying to conceive story, then please write it and submit it to us.
We had a very early loss before we conceived our middle child. It was determined to be a chemical pregnancy, but because we had already been trying for several years, I was instantly attached and excited. It was heartbreaking to go in for blood draws only to find out my level of hCG was dropping. I'll always remember that sweet tiny one.
@LondonsMommy - I have spoken with my Dr about it, after what i thought were 2 "false positives" that the Dr believes were actually early miscarriages, and as far as he can tell there is no medical reason why I cannot get pregnant. We know I have been twice.. even if only for a week or 2.. Right now we are content with the way things are.
@Awake_My_Soul420@xanga - Thank you! Yeah, I've tried adopting but the time wasn't right and it didn't work out then. I've heard stories where someone adopted a baby and became pregnant later on. I have certain medical conditions but I've been told one pregnancy won't hurt me. So I am still hoping for a baby. I am in a new relationship so when the time is right we will consider adopting if nothing happens with me. I'd adopt even if I had a child of my own cause I don't believe a child should grow up without a brother or sister. So if I get pregnant that's great, but if not then I'll adopt 2 little ones.
I had a chemical pregnancy before conceiving my 1st son, and at the time i was a little let down - but it wasn't the right time in my life for a baby so i didn't give it much thought. It wasn't until my son was born that i really started to think of it a lot - would it have been a girl or a boy? Would it have had my hair? Etc..
But i'm a thankful to be blessed with a happy and healthy 19 month old and another little boy due on December 27th. I know a few people who have had losses, both while pregnant and after the birth and i can't even imagine how that would feel. My heart goes out to them all. <3
Oct. 15 is Pregnancy/Infant Loss Day. As someone who has had several losses, this day is a bittersweet reminder that I am not alone.
I was lucky enough to find the support of others who have gone through heartbreak. They have been there when I've cried, felt lost, hopeless, along with a dozen other emotions.
Unfortunately, so many women still carry their sadness in silence because it is a subject that few
are comfortable talking about.
I am open about my losses. It is not contagious and talking about them does not make me sad. I find comfort in knowing you care and hope that it will help others heal.
Let today be a day where we can remember our loved ones, share memories, and let others know that they existed, lived, and were loved.
Very very sad day, indeed .. Will never forget it. Spouse didn't really understand my feelings about it...
I have had three miscarriages and the one that devastated me the most happened on
October 15th 2010. :( It was ironic because of the day. But, I found out the reason why I kept miscarrying so when my boyfriend and I do decide its the right time to have children, there won't be a problem. His blood type is O+ and mine is O-, so that caused a big issue. I grieved for a long time over each baby loss and now I am finally accepting the fact that it WASN'T my fault, the babies just weren't meant to be at that time. And when we are both financially stable, have a good home to raise a little one, I know that I will value my child EVEN more because of the struggles we have been through.As if I needed a day dedicated to getting stabbed in the heart. To each his own but this just ticks me off.
@VampireOfSeduction@xanga - I know everyone grieves and processes in their own way. But I think most people appreciate recognition of loss. And I think that's what this is, not a call to pain. It's a day to honor the lost ones. Like Memorial Day is for the military.