Monday, 15 October 2012
Perfect does not exist. Real Moms accept this.
This is a top 10 list I wrote in my friend's Mother's Day card when she had her 1st about 3 yrs ago. She was very concerned about everything being perfect. When anyone asks for Mom advice this is what I tell them:
1. Perfection & other people's opinions don't matter more than making it to the next day with your sanity intact. This is priority #1. You have a precious soul that depends on you.
2. Sleep or at least lie on the couch with your eyes closed when the baby sleeps. You will need rest any way you can get it.
3. Pay attention! Learn your babies cues, patterns, likes, dislikes, and quirks. It will make your life so much easier if you can anticipate.
4. Every baby is different. So don't be afraid to try different things until find something that you & your baby is comfortable with.
5. Your baby, your rules. The parents have the final say. Don't be bullied. You have to live & deal with the child you raise. All those other people don't.
6. Don't try to change your baby based on some "sure fire/popular" method. Sometimes, even if it works, you're too tired to enjoy your success much less keep it going. Do what comes naturally. The "right way" is what works for you.
7. Bend or your precious little screamer may break you.
8. You must own that magical piece of baby gear which you strap your beautiful one into. They have to love it and you must be able to drag into the bathroom. It's the only way you will maintain the level of hygiene to which you are accustomed. You're going to feel like crap on many days. No extra points given for looking and smelling like it, too. (Sorry.)
9. Don't be shy in asking for help. No one does it all by themselves. At least not well.
10. Remember to pray, breathe, laugh and of course love. It goes so fast, you want to enjoy it. Celebrate the little victories! What things look like on the outside can be overrated. How you feel on the inside is not. So find a way to balance the two for yourself and your little sweetie. You are the first example your child will have on learning how to deal with adversity. Don't mess this up!!! They are watching and it is a very important life skill. Teach by example. No matter what parents say, children believe what they see. And what they see shapes their world. Happy Mommy = Happy Baby.
P.S. Being overwhelmed sometimes is normal but many Moms don't like to admit this. Stay away from those mommies. They are fake witches. You've been warned.
Which advice number is your favorite?