So I'm trying to figure out if this is normal......
Ella has been potty trained in the daytime since she was just over 2 years old. I didn't focus on the nighttime until very recently because I felt like she wasn't ready and there was no rush.
A few months ago we gave up the pull-ups and she has only had a couple of accidents. She doesn't make it through the night without peeing and every night around 12am-1am, she will wake up needing to go pee. Here's the weird part....
She will wake up and stay in bed acting very upset. She will moan and cry out. When this first happened, I thought she had a bad dream so I calmed her down and left. Then she freaked out even more until I went back in there. I asked her repeatedly if she had to pee and she always said "no." I took her to the bathroom anyway, she peed, and then went right back to sleep.
I have learned that when she wakes up in the middle of the night, it's ALWAYS because she has to pee. Even if she says she doesn't have to go, she does. I have told her if she wakes up to just go to the bathroom herself, but she won't do it....she always calls me, upset about something.
I'm glad her body is signaling to her to wake up, but why does she just moan and want me in there without recognizing she has to go to the bathroom? Will she get past this?
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Maybe she's afraid to walk through the house alone when it's dark and everyone's sleeping.
Part of me wonders if she simply enjoys your presence in the bathroom at night? Like, is she scared of the bathroom in the dark?
It's dark, everyones sleeping.. Heck, I still get scared sometimes LOL. Atleast that is what I think. But I suppose it could be anything. Maybe have a light on or nightlight or something and see if that is it :)
I am ready for my "baby" to be night trained too, wish it was a easy thing to figure out....
I guess you need to figure out if she's blatantly lying to you, or if she can't figure it out when she's half asleep, and go from there.
She probably feels that she needs your help and permission.
My son has the same problem. He's been day trained for nearly a year, and nighttime is a struggle for us. We recently put him back in pull ups for bedtime as a precaution since cleaning the mattress on the top bunk of the bunk bed he shares with his younger brother is extremely tricky. I have found that he's just so disoriented when he wakes up, and before he can think clearly enough to realize he needs to go potty, he's wet himself. Your daughter will get past this phase. Our oldest, who is nearly 6, gets up and goes on her own now, and she used to cry out when she was younger. Night lights may help if she's afraid of going to the bathroom alone in the dark.
I think it's completely normal. My two oldest kids did the same thing. She'll grow out of it eventually!
My daughter has been daytime potty-trained since a couple months after she turned 2 (she is nw 3 and a half) but there is nothing I can do about nighttimes. Some nights she has no accidents, but most nights she does. I don't allow her to drink anything the hour before bed, I make sure she goes to the bathroom before she goes to bed, and even sometimes when I go to wake her up an hour or 2 after she goes to bed, it's already too late. I'm not sure what her deal is, if she doesn't wake up enough to get up or if she just sleeps right on through. When she wets her bed, she usually doesn't wake up, either. She doesn't notice till the next morning...
@PoetMcChick@xanga - Is she a deep sleeper? As in, does she sleep through a lot of things? This was the case with me... the house next door to mine was on fire and i slept through fire fighters coming in and out our house to warm up, as well as the sirens and lights and water. I used to never wake up to go to the bathroom, and my mom tried EVERYthing. The one that finally worked was this sensor thing you put in your pjs/underwear and then connect the wire up to by your head, then when you would start to go it'd blare in your ear... idk where to get one, but it certainly trained me to start feeling, even in my sleep, when I had to go.
She's probably just scared of the dark.
It sounds like she is scared to go to the bathroom at night by herself. Our son went through this faze just after he was potty trained, and it took him about 4 months to stop (he rarely wakes up at night to pee).. My goddaughter went through it too.. What we did is we got a few packs of those glow stick things (usually from the dollar store) and hung it by her bed at night. If she woke up and had to pee, she grabbed her glow stick, went to the potty, and came back to bed. Took about a month for her to get to the point where she didn't need it.
The night time upset will pass, sooner than you think. I never did wait for my kids to tell me about peeing, or, to pee their pants and then tell me. I just took them potty every couple of hours, and it either happened or it didn't, but it made our days a lot easier.
I agree with everyone it's scary but I personally hurt when I hold it too long so for me when I would wake up it would be extremely uncomfortable/painful. But no one here has mentioned that in a comment so maybe I'm weird lol.