Wednesday, 26 September 2012
When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I vowed never to become like my own mother. Don't get me wrong, my mom's heart has always been in the right place. She was very overprotective of us. She just wanted to keep my sister and me safe, especially after our father passed away. However, I didn't want to be that overbearing and overprotective mom. Yes, I want to keep my child safe, but I don't want to be overshadowing him every moment of every day.
Now that my son has turned two, when I step back and take a look at myself as a mother, I realize just how much I am like her. I am the mom who freaks out if my son trips and skins his knee, or if he's jumping up and down out of pure joy and excitement, I tell him to be careful. It occurred to me that I am worse than my mother, and even she's told me that (that's bad isn't it?). I am an overprotective mom, I want to keep my son safe, I never want him to get hurt. I know that I need to "ease up" a little bit, and let him "be a kid". My feelings are terribly conflicted on this issue though. There is just so much bad in the world today, I want my son to be protected.
This is just one more issue that I need to work on, learning how to be a mom. I've realized that you can never truly know everything about being a parent, no matter how many children you've had. You can have 5 children, and they can all be on totally different ends of the spectrum with each other. You'll never know exactly what each day will bring. But, that is also the beauty of having a child. Each day is something brand new, and you're able to see the world through a child's eyes again.
Have you noticed things that make you think back to how your own mother handled similar situations?