Hey moms, I was wondering if you could help me out with this one. Here goes....
Today I took my two boys, 15mo. and 3 yrs, out shopping. My husband works and I stay at home with them. I constantly have to find new things to do with them, to entertain both them and myself. Today we set out to buy new fall clothes. We went to our favorite second hand toddler clothing store - they grow out of their clothes in a month, I'm not spending a bucket of money on clothes! This store is located in a small strip mall. Next door, I noticed a used book store and decided to look around for just a minute. This is where the problem started...
The store was very small but nicely organized and I could see books that I was really interested in from the get go. My children, however, had a different agenda. Like all kiddos their age, they wanted to touch or look at everything and since there were no carts or room for even a small stroller, I had to hold my little one and try to entertain my 3 year old so I could sneak a peak at a couple of books. I was pleasantly surprised when I got to the back of the store where there was a little "kids corner" closet/room. The boys were very happy to play in there with the toys and books. We looked around in the kids corner for a while and then I came out and stepped not 3 feet away from the open door to the kids corner when the sales lady told me that I couldn't leave them unsupervised. Although I was slightly confused, they were certainly NOT unsupervised, I could see them where I was standing, I told her I'm sorry and brought both of the boys out into the section of books I was looking at.
Now my boys are not angels, they are kids. I do my best to make them behave and I think I'm pretty good at it but I'm very far from perfect and they are very young, it's going to take time for them to understand what they should and should not be doing. The boys were laughing at each other, not very loudly I thought, and running around me, literally, not around the store, around me in a very small area. This happened for less than 5 minutes. I could see them, they weren't hurting each other or anything and there was no one else in the store except us, the sales lady (who I think was the owner) and her daughter who looked to be about 16 years old, and they certainly weren't hurting them. So in my mind they were okay. But very soon after, the sales lady came back to me and told me that I needed to get a handle on my kids and that there was a kids corner in the back that I might be interested in taking them to.
My first thought was is this woman a mother and what in the world was I or my children doing that was offensive to her? So since I couldn't leave my children "unsupervised" in the kids corner while I looked at books and I know that it would be nearly impossible for me to hold both children and have them be silent or to even keep them from walking a couple feet away from me, I put down the book I was looking at, took my kids and walked right out of the store.
But now that I've has some time to think about it, I was certainly embarrassed and offended. But more importantly it made me question: Are my kids badly behaved? Does everyone see us and think my family is unruly? Am I not being a good mother in that way? Am I not strict enough?
So that's why I'm bringing this to you. Am I in the wrong or are they??