r the mom I can only hope to be. And so far after being a mom myself.... I only look up too u for being so strong when that thing everyone calls LIFE tried to knock u down. I only hope that one day I will be able to hear my sons say the same to me.....
It reminded me of a post I did a long time ago...The Magic of the Band-aid. I posted it on FB for her. It's so hard to know your children are hurting and going through things you've already experienced. I wish a band-aid could help her now. This is the post I left her:
The Magic of the Band-Aid -
9/28/2008 When my girls were young, the band-aid was a magical thing. No matter the problem, a band-aid always seemed to be the fix. That or a kiss to the offended area. Still works with the grandmonsters. It was a cure-all for everything it seemed. Skinned knees, scratches and sometimes even when there seemed to be no evidence of a ... boo boo, a band-aid placed on the arm, leg or whatever always seemed to make them feel better. As they got older the magic of the band-aid receded.
Walking out of childhood into the teenage years and growing into a young adult, the power of the band-aid was lost. Sad isn't it, the things we lose from childhood. A kiss seemed to have the same affect. I always tried to kiss the hurt away. Once, when Brandy was young, she literally busted her arse. Amidst the tears, she began to laugh. She looked at me and said, "kiss it Mama." The little shite. It's a moment I'll always remember. Laughter through tears.... It seems the older they get, the harder it is to kiss the hurt away. We watch as our children go through the pains of life and most times, there's not much we can do.
I feel so helpless sometimes and long for the power of the band-aid. When they suffer the trials of life, we can love them, be there for them, give advice but most times we just have to let time heal the wounds. Being a Mother is the hardest job there is, I think. But, it's also one that's full of rewards.
Have you experienced the power of the Band-Aid?
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Being a mom is worth two full time jobs. Your post brought tears. It's wonderful to be close to your children, and also painful, because as they age, we can't kiss away the tears. And the pain and situations get much harder to deal with. With me and my daughter it's been mental illness and divorce, yet, we live together and are very close. I cherish the day she was born. I am also close to my son, but not in the same way. You usually don't go lingerie shopping with a boy. But his heart breaks have been mine, and the tears have flowed into rivers over the years. I think letting go and letting them suffer through their own ills is the hardest thing a mom can ever do, and I'm not sure we ever completely cut the cord. You'd see me with mine, and never guess that they were carried in my womb, as there is zero resemblance, but for the rest of my life, my heart will be controlled by their joy and their pain. I just can't help it. And the artwork in my house isn't somebody famous. It's all the stuff my kids painted and counter cross stitched over the years. It brings such joy. Yes, it's brutal being a mom, and also wonderful.
I've spoken with my mother about stuff like this (which I think you wrote beautifully). She says, and so far even though my kids are only 3 and 6 I'm starting to appreciate it more, that raising children at first is physically hard. As they age, the physical strain lessens, but the emotional strain increases. It never gets easier, the medium just shifts.
"Walking out of childhood into the teenage years and growing into a young adult, the power of the band-aid was lost. Sad isn't it, the things we lose from childhood. A kiss seemed to have the same affect. I always tried to kiss the hurt away." - I dread when this time comes for my children. It must be heartbreaking.
This should be a touching post, but the only thing that I can think is "Seriously? This girl is a grown woman and still uses the letter 'u' for the word 'you'?"
If I were her mom, I would definitely feel like I had failed her as a parent, and as a human being.
@on_my_own_soon@xanga - You're ridiculous. And if you can't get to the content, your loss. That's really shallow.
@sarahsmurfette@xanga - Some people are just so bent on their idea of perfection they don't understand real language. Regardless let the person continue to try to put others down in a sad attempt to feel supirior. It just makes it easier to weed through the shallow people and find real love and connection.
It was a beautiful post regardless of the grammar errors I'm sure MOST people are intelegent enough to comprehend and understand the point. lol