After I emailed my son's teacher, I didn't expect to hear from her until the next day. I was wrong! She gave me a call as soon as she read the email because she had her own concerns and wanted to reach out immediately. Her concerns? What I was told was completely different then what she has witnessed at school!
While he told me he didn't eat his lunch yesterday while on the field trip, his teacher let me know he ate everything. She also let me know that another boy in class dumped some of his lunch on the ground, and that my son gave him his Teddy Grahams because he was "full" and they would just be going in the garbage.
While he told me that he doesn't play with anyone at recess, his teacher let me know that has never been the case! She has seen him running around with several other boys, climbing and going down slides. She said that she's going to remind the class as a whole that they are a family and everyone should play together. She said she does not take name-calling lightly, and that we would be notified immediately if something like that ever happened.
As far as sitting alone at lunch, he sits at a table with all the packers. The reason some (sometimes most) of his lunch comes back home is because he is a slow eater (this we know) and is often talking with those around him.
So I'm surprised, and relieved. But now I wonder why he would lie about it?
We're working on that slow-eating thing. I'm sure he gets it from me, so I'm thinking of showing him just how fast I can eat. Not in a gross hot dog eating contest fashion, but that I don't let things distract me and can eat and get on to something fun.
I'm really glad we don't have a bullying problem, but it definitely made me look into it. With his speech apraxia, I know that kids are going to have a hard time understanding him. I just hope that they look past that and see he is just like them in every way imaginable, and to get ready to play because he loves to run around!
I'll be sharing some bullying resources in another post soon to help those who think they may be facing a situation. Don't be afraid to ask questions and to get in touch with your child's teacher - they spend so much time with our children, they learn things and see things about our children that we may not!