Just look at that picture (I don't know anything about the book, this is about the image of Motherhood). No offense to the model, but when you see that picture it does not scream intelligence or education.
I was always a focused woman. Even in high school I was focused on my education. I swore off dating until college because I didn't want any distractions. I graduated from college when I was 21 and had a good job literally waiting for me as soon as I walked across that stage and grabbed that piece of paper. I worked in Radiology, from trauma to the OR, x-ray to CT, and I loved my job. I loved being a part of that team, and I was good at it. I asked questions and learned more every single day I was there.
And when my second child was born it coincided with my husband's military orders to move across the country. We made the decision together that it was time for me to try staying home with our kids. We didn't technically *need* the money. Yes, it's always handy and it could be put away for savings. But the greater need was for my children to have their mother present and involved and I am blessed that I have that opportunity.
It was a total identity change. I was prepared for that. I saw that coming. I knew it would be a different kind of challenge with a different kind of reward.
What I wasn't prepared for, what I didn't expect, was the reality of the public's perception of stay at home Moms. I think there is an unconscious stigma that we are uneducated and have a reduced IQ compared to working Moms.
How did I decide this? From the interactions I have with people now in comparison to the interactions that I had before. People that don't know my history put me off as someone who has nothing to contribute to any adult conversation. It is appalling. If I ever utter more than a 3 syllable word, it's as if a goat is suddenly speaking perfect English. And at first, it made me want to go ahead and tell people at first introduction, "I'm a stay at home Mom, but I used to ......." to try and combat that dummy hat they were about to put on me. I don't want to do that anymore! Why would you assume that my decision to stay at home with my kids was because I had no other option or because I have no education or legitimate career?
How did my change in work status suddenly reduce my IQ in your eyes?
I wasn't prepared for the public's perception of stay at home motherhood and was shocked by the reality of it in my environment. That was far worse than the identity change.