Saturday, 11 August 2012
My "BFF" of over ten years has asked that I be present (along with her husband and her mother) during the birth of her daughter. I happily agreed. I do not yet know her birth plan but intend to ask towards the end of November as she is due in December and her mind can change a few dozen times between now and then (or even the day of). I know that I will have to respect whatever decisions she makes (assuming she stays sane), even if they aren't the ones I would make for myself or for my child. I've looked into the hospital and I really like some of the things they do, so hopefully I won't have to bite my tongue much.
I know it's still a few months away, but I have some questions. What should I pack for myself? What, if anything, should I take for her and/or the baby? (I will ask her about taking my camera.) What should I expect? I already know to stay out of the way of the medical staff, but can you offer any advice, tips, suggestions?
My other concern is a little more difficult. She got pregnant one week after I did. I miscarried. Again. This has been very difficult for me, but I am determined to be there for her during labor and delivery, as much as she wants me there. I've been angry and jealous, and I absolutely do not want those feelings to show up. If they do pop up, I certainly don't want to show them or convey any negativity. She's like a sister to me and I want her to have as good of an experience as she can, and I want my "niece" to be a healthy, happy baby.
What is the best way to deal with my own feelings when the time comes?