Wednesday, 08 August 2012
Just when you thought Mommy Dearest was as bad as a mother could get, along comes the mothers of reality TV. The norm for many of the reality television shows is the portrayal of moms as scary creatures instead of nurturing caregivers. While many bad examples of parenting emerge from these shows, all is not lost. A few positive examples rise to the top and have served as role models for mothers in the real world.
The Bad: Parenting Don'ts
1. Postpartum Nightmares
Regardless of how frustrated moms can get with their babies, it is not a good parenting practice to share fantasies about dropping their newborns off the roof. The New York Times points out such an incident on an episode of “Postpartum Nightmares,” when the mom shares a solution to all her new mommy woes. “I was so in the mindset to say O.K., kill the baby, it will get rid of the problem.” If you can't stomach watching all of it at once, program your DVR (Digital Video Recorder), which comes free of charge when you sign up with Satellite911.
2. Forcing kids into the Spotlight
Forcing kids into things they don’t want to do is not always a horrible thing if you want them to eat their vegetables, or clean their room. But blasting them into the spotlight on national TV like many moms did in Lifetime’s “Dance Moms” is downright awful. The Daily Beast, has reviewed this program's inappropriateness, complete with nasty mothers and an evil dance instructor.
One episode showed a 7-year-old girl’s resistance to being forced to dance for the cameras. The youngster ran into her mother’s arms backstage, pleading, “Please don’t make me go!” Her agony was captured on film, complete with the girl openly scowling and pointing at the camera being shoved in her face.
3. Televised Child Abuse
Ever watch “Toddlers & Tiaras,” where super-controlling moms force their young daughters to prance around in sexy adult outfits and hussy-level makeup? The Daily Beast accurately sums up “Dance Moms” and “Toddlers & Tiaras” in three words: televised child abuse.
The Good: Parenting Do's
Not every reality television mother is the wicked witch of the airwaves. Some actually have scruples, morals and a healthy way of parenting. The Ashley’s Reality Roundup blog paid tribute to several of the top moms on reality TV, and several of their best behaviors are noted below.
1. Parenting your own kids
Many celeb moms hire on a fleet of nannies to look after their brood, get a pedicure and call it a day. Not so with Tori Spelling, who is always out and about with her hubby and trio of children on their show “Home Sweet Hollywood.” This refreshing practice doubles as a way to truly bond with your children.
2. Being honest
Matriarch Evelyn Braxton of “Braxton Family Values” gets a nod for being up-front and honest with her five daughters. She’s not one to needlessly coddle, even telling them they must respect her or they will be punished.
“Teen Mom 2's" Kail Lowry is a trooper. She overcomes her own hardships to focus on college and motherhood. Obstacles included an unplanned pregnancy, a less-than-prefect relationship with the father of her child, and the lack of a connection with her own parents and still she puts her child first.
With so many reality shows depicting moms as downright demonic, seeing a positive portrayal is refreshing. Imitating such a portrayal is easily within your power if you focus on the positive examples of what a good mommy should be.