I'm sure we've all heard the ''Stacey's mom has got it goin' on'' song a million or two times. As a new mom as well as a single mother, every chance I get I try to look as good as possible. But why is it that when you push a child out of your lady parts you're automatically thrown into the '"Ew-you're-a-mom-here's-a-turtle-neck'' category?
It seems like mothers who take care of their appearance and look good are categorized and stereotyped as sluts who don't care about their children. Of course my looks are no longer my first priority! But when I get the chance to do my hair & make-up, people tend to assume they are. I've never really understood it. You just pushed a 6+ lbs baby out of you, or were cut wide-open to get that lil' cutie out. You're a f!$#%ng super-hero! You have every damned right to want to look good!
I know I STILL struggle with postpartum depression a little (my daughter is 5 months old). You just don't feel so hot. You feel gross for that first 6 weeks when your cookah is gushing blood and torn or just looks like a massacre in general. You feel blah! I think that's even more of a reason to WEAR MAKE-UP OR DO WHATEVER THE HELL IT IS THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD!
I know that many, many mothers are like me: you get SO wrapped up in your children that you practically forget that there even was a YOU. But when I do my make-up, or get my nails done, or whatever it is, I feel a hell of a lot better in general. So why should I be frowned upon for it? I bust my butt for my daughter! I am a single mom under 21 so people assume I'm out drinking, getting high, and pawning my baby off on others. The truth is - I haven't had a night out in
over a year (before I got pregnant). The most I do is work or go to the store WITH MY DAUGHTER because that's MY CHOICE, not because I am forced to.
No, I am NOT a stereotypical soccer mom, driving a mini-van, wearing a turtleneck sweater in the kitchen playing Betty friggen Crocker, and I cuss like a sailor and like tattoos. But why does that make me a bad mom?
What do you mamas think about America's idea of how a mother should look/think & act?