My mother-in-law is coming to visit on Saturday. I always get nervous. I still have some left over anger over the last time we saw each other. I saw her husband spank my nephew. He then said "You know that was an accident."
How is spanking a child an accident? It's not. It should never be somebody's reaction! I try everything else before spanking my child. I can't say that I've never spanked but I am extremely careful with it. It REALLY bothered me. My brother-in-law is fine with it though, so it's not my place to really say anything. I just know if any family member EVER laid their hands on Kadyn, some really rude words would fly. (At the least)
I don't see why people think it's ok for other people to discipline their children. I think that's parent's job ONLY. I can understand somebody besides me correcting Kadyn, and I'm fine with that. But physical discipline? No way. I'm afraid of letting her be alone with them because of this. Josh and I are both uneasy about it. I wouldn't even want anybody else to pop her hand. The thought of it makes me sick to my stomach. That's MY child, not theirs. I am raising her, not them. Discipline should be left up to Josh and I. Part of me wants to sit Josh's parents down and tell them that. I have already done so with my parents.
I'm so afraid of somebody treating my child badly. She's not old enough to tell me if something has happened or to defend herself. If I ever found out that something DID happen to her I would ruin somebody's day and feel extremely guilty for letting Kadyn be in that situation. It is my job to protect her. So for now, supervision is a MUST. The awkward part is when she says something about taking Kadyn somewhere alone. I used to brush it off and change the subject. The last time it came up I said that she was too young and I was uncomfortable with it. My mother-in-law actually got a little huffy puffy. I wondered if I was overreacting or being overprotective. I don't think I was.
What do you think? Should grandparents be allowed to spank?