Thursday, 28 June 2012

  • Is There A Wrong Way To Name A Child?


    Looking through baby names just now, I was struck by the variety of them out there, and curious about the limitations society seems to put on names. Even though we've got celebrities naming their children after colors and fruit, there still seems to be a big hesitation about naming a baby something unusual, unless it's "trending" (let's hear it for "Brielle," I know two born this year already ).

    Personally, ethnic names, Biblical names, family names, and unusual names that others are able to pronounce and spell fairly easily are on my "okay" list.

    Names of close family or friend's children, names that are colors, foods or just don't even sound like names are on my "not okay" list.

    Do you think some names should not be names? How do you decide? Are there hard and fast rules to naming a child? Does the old excuse of "they'll always be made fun of in school" still hold true?


Comments (54)

  • sarahsmurfette@xanga

    I think it definitely still holds true that kids will make fun of certain names, yes.

    And is there a wrong/bad way to name a child? Yes. Groupon had a deal recently to name your baby, it was $1000. You paid the company that amount and they would name your baby for you (the name was "Clembough"). Can you believe that!

  • sarahsmurfette@xanga

    Also pardon me for a minute while I tell you the worst name I ever knew. My Dad was a football coach who also taught PE. He had a student whose name was, ehhem, "Shithead" pronounced "shu teed".

    Names like that just don't give the kid a chance in life.

  • TiredSoVeryTired@xanga

    Yes, it annoys the crap out of me when someone names their child "Ashlee" or "Meshell" or "Cynthya" or "Brytannie".  For reals, stupid!  I'm annoyingly outspoken about this.  lol  Your kid isn't any more speshal because you spelled their name wrong! 

    I accept variations like Kristie/Cristie/Christie because they are ancient and come from various countries where Kristine and Christine are just spellings of different cultures or whatnot.  Or names like Stacy/Stacey/Stacie which are forms of Anastasia and no set diminutive.  But not Staysea for heaven's sake!

  • TiredSoVeryTired@xanga

    @sarahsmurfette@xanga - Why!!! Why!!! For reals, even if Shithead means valiant, gracious prince in some obscure language, why name your child that in America???

  • babybug329@xanga

    @TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - I agree, I hate it when people try to find creative ways to spell their kid's name.  Especially Michaela.  I've seen it every other way.  Let your child's creativity shine through their actions and art, not their name.


    Name your kid whatever you want, children will be bullied in school if there is another child who has the prerogative to do so (if not for their "stupid" name, then something else).  Let's work on teaching our children to respect others.  I prefer traditional and biblical names, as long as they are spelled correctly.
  • TiredSoVeryTired@xanga

    @babybug329@xanga - Exactly!  I named my daughter, Caitlin.  It's a traditional Irish name, though we don't pronounce it that way.  At the time, I simply didn't realize there was 500 ways to spell it!  

  • Trueinnerbeauty@lovelyish

    @sarahsmurfette@xanga - I went to school with a harry dick, and a Sunny Dawn Daylight

  • my0615@xanga

    Made up names are destructive to the child. No one deserves ridicule because of heir parents' idiocy.

  • notinwonderlandanymore@xanga

    I think some parents just don't think. I never knew anyone with a really outrageous name but I know people with names spelt in really unconventional ways, and it STILL causes them problems now when they're looking for work. 

  • bbanmen420@xanga

    Whenever someone I know names their kids something crazy.. I instantly feel sorry for them because they most likely will be made fun of it in school.. Kids are cruel, thats just how it is.. I wish my name was a bit more unique though. I hate having such a common name :/

  • Erika_Steele@xanga

    I would never name my child anything odd or spell one of my children's names in a cutsie way.  A long time ago, a woman wanted to name her child Nina but she wanted to spell it Knina.  She got upset when we thought it was ridiculous.  We told Xher that we weren't telling her not to name her daughter Knina, but she should expect people saying what we said and worse.

    I knew two sets of Sisters whose names were Justice, Peace, and Liberty and the other set of sisters were April, May, June, and July (Julie).  I remember thinking that their parents were so weird.  

  • rachmorgan01

    I think names for children should be a personal thing. A name one person finds obscure might be viewed as beautiful by someone else, and I feel it ultimately comes down to what the parents want. I think culture plays a huge role in child names as well. Middle Eastern, Indian, Asian, African, and even some European names seem strange to me, but that's only because I'm American. I'm sure many American names seem strange to people of other cultures. Yes, there is a chance of a child being picked on for the name they receive from their parents, but let's face it, kids are cruel and will always find something to tease someone else for. If not their name, it'll be their clothes, their nose, the way they talk, etc. My name's Rachael. A very common, simple name that was never the butt of any joke. I was super tall, wore glasses, and had a huge overbite. I was also smart, shy, and never got in trouble. Needless to say, I was an easy target for bullies.... I don't feel there are any rules one should follow when naming their children. Common, uncommon, traditional spelling, creative spelling.... It's all up to the parents, in my opinion. All 3 of my kids have easy to spell, easy to pronounce, common names (Brooklynn, Parker, Benjamin). Their names were chosen because I liked them, not because I was concerned about what other people would think if I went with more obscure names. It does seem to be a new trend to choose the most obscure names nowadays, but part of me wonders how many of the parents actually go for names because they're different of if they are choosing names based on the way they feel about them.

  • LupusInvictus@xanga

    It's funny how names trend though...Leroy used to be popular, but our family's reaction was, "WHY ON EARTH would you ever name your child Leroy? That poor baby!" To them, it was just as bad as Shithead.

    @sarahsmurfette@xanga - LOL, I would have considered it - Clem was actually on the list of possibilities for us. I would have put the money into a college fund!

  • vlinder_farfalla@xanga

    Well, a little girl in my kindergarten class was named "Latrina"- like a latrine. I see where her mom was coming from there, I guess it SOUNDS pretty, but...yeah, I think that's sad. Here in Northern California a lot of kids have "out there" names- Raincloud, Stormy, Sunshine, etc. They're not my favorite, but I don't think it's a barrier to anything in life. 

  • emily_shannon@xanga

    The one rule I would add is not to name your kid after a body part. I say this after I found "Hymen" recommended as a boy's name once. I still don't understand why a parent would name their child that.

  • specialxplaces@xanga

    Whatever happened to.. John Smith? Or... Julie.

  • vlinder_farfalla@xanga

    @emily_shannon@xanga - It's SO funny you mention that- my son's name is Jaime, and he goes by the spanish pronunciation "High-may". I cannot tell you how many people hear that and say "Hymen?" Yes. I named my son Hymen. And one guy heard "Homie". *shrug* I assumed he'd go as "jay-me", but he just doesn't. meh. 

  • VampireOfSeduction@xanga

    I'd avoid foods or sentences or words (Harry, Sue). Don't first-name your child after yourself. Seriously. Ego much? I also hate when people give twins similar names, like Jamie and Amy.
    "Satan Christ" is off the table just because I wouldn't want my son getting dirty looks for it, even though I think it'd be a cool name.
    Girls: Raina Josifeen, Alayna Kawaii
    Boys: Draygan Jay, Damien Slade (middle names may get switched)

    @specialxplaces@xanga - Pocahontas dumped him. Man that movie made me mad.

  • PreMommy@xanga

    Here's another question... Do you think your name choice reflects on you as a parent, and does that matter to you? When I had a boy named Lyfe (pronounced "life," or something between that and Leif!) in my Sunday school class, I had to do a double take on his mom to see if she looked "normal." Now that may not have been fair of me, but that's what happened! I tend to want to know what drove a parent to choose a name like that.

    And when I hear someone naming their kid "Draygan" I tend to think they've been reading too many fantasy novels. Is it okay to be obsessed with fantasy novels? Sure. Should your child reflect your obsessions? Hmmm... No judgement from me if that's your name choice, but I will think to question your motives behind choosing such a name.

  • T0m03@xanga

    Well, not only are certain names going to be made fun of when these kids are in school but... This name will follow them throughout their entire lives... That affects their economical potential as well. When an employer first glances at a resume, who would they rather interview? ponyprincess2006@yahoo.com or twendell21@yahoo.com? It's kind of the same way with names. 

  • TracyKM

       I was born in the early 70s, and up til then, Tracy had been a boy's name.     Yet suddenly it became a popular girls' name, and I became known as "Tracy without an E".  Still.  I don't understand people who do even worse creative spelling.  It's terrible for teachers.  Even something as simple as Ally vs Allie vs Aly.  Which one is "right"?

    I have heard of La-Dasha ("La dash a") and twins named Lemon and Lime.  As a substitute teacher, I got to see other interesting names.  Up here in Ontario, they don't get too wacky, but it makes me sad when I see a good name like "Jackson" (my mother's maiden name, which we almost used for my 12 year old until I started to hear it everywhere), spelled "Jaxen".  And yes, I do think creative spellings might cause unintented career issues---what would you think if you came to court and the judge was "Rainbow Smith".  That her mother was a freak, so how could she be normal?  So, it does make the mother look bad but the child gets the brunt.  Unless it's a child who changes their name to be unique from others with the same name ("Maaddii" instead of Maddie).

  • WaitingToShrug@xanga

    Personally, I like names that are a teeny bit out of the ordinary, but not unheard of. My friend's daughter's middle name is Brielle. I think it's pretty. :) She's a year old today, actually!

  • erotyka@xanga

    I went to school with a boy who was Indian by heritage, so he translated his name from script and then matched it as closely to a name as possible. The result was first name 'Isaac' and second name 'Isaac'. He was Isaac Isaac. His older sister was Raheema Isaac.

    There was a kid a few years younger than me who mainly got bullied for his mum being a stripper, but his name was also pretty ridiculous. His name was Ailsa. Ailsa is a local bird sanctuary, and the name of the local mental hospital. I've met girls by that name, but he was the only boy with that name.

    I had two headteachers called Mr Bone. I often corrected the wiki article about the school to Boner :P

  • Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga

    I dont agree with "unique spellings" or naming kids after crazy objects but I dont think there's such a thing as wrong names. People are often just plain ignorant. They thing ethnic names are "bad", "Wrong" or "stupid" just because they never heard of them before. OR they call out parents for picking a name from a culture they arent a part of. SO WHAT?! If you like the name, pick it. Being your own person has to do with you personality & brain, not your name. 


    My first name is Arabic & my parents picked it because they like it. I'd had my fair share of teasing but I dont hate my name. I love it because when I went to Catholic schools, there were TONS of Britneys, Taras, Jennifers, Elizabeths, Melissas, Courtneys & Christines. I was the only Amina (pronounced uh-mee-nah, with a small emphasis on the "mee"). I've been called Aminda, Ameena, Ameina, Amoona, & one science teacher got a kick out of calling me Amina Amoeba during attendance but I liked it. I know he wasnt being malicious. 
  • misslei11@xanga

    I don't like when people name their kids weird names ._.


    If I have a girl she's going to be Ava Onelia (Onelia after my bf's grandmother if we are still together) or Ava Christine (Christine after my mother.)
    If I have a boy he will be Nathaniel Dickson (Dickson after my boyfriend, he wanted it to be his first name but, he used to get made fun of for his name and I don't want our child to) or Nathaniel Richard (Richard after my father.)
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