Tuesday, 26 June 2012
This past Valentines' Day we found out that we are expecting our second child- a little girl! We are really excited and feel that the 3 and 1/2 year age difference between her and our son will work really well for our little family. Jaime has been potty trained for over a year, and been in his own toddler bed for 2 years. Since we heard the heartbeat, we have been explaining what's happening to Jaime. He went with us to the ultrasound, and the tech was very patient in explaining all the body parts to him. He got to see his sister Beatriz kicking around, and was excited to show our housemates the ultrasound pictures.
Last month we bought a crib and set it up in his room. We wanted to start introducing the baby's things into his space early, to ease him in to sharing the (small) space. He helped re-organize his toys to make space for her changing table, and seemed happy to help out (he LOVES to be a little "helper").
Every time I go to the doctor he asks if the baby will come home outside of my belly, and he's impatient for her to be born. He gives my belly hugs and kisses goodnight, and likes to feel the baby kick. This is all fine and good, and I'm glad he seems to genuinely understand that a baby is coming. But I'm worried that the reality of a needy little baby, taking all of mommy's attention, will be hard for him.
He was in daycare with a newborn boy until the boy was a year old, so I'm glad he's had experience around a small baby. However, when we go to friends houses who have babies, he does get jealous when I hold them for too long. I'm excited to see him as a big brother, he's very nurturing. But I'm wondering what we should be doing to prepare him.
The baby is due in October, so there's still a lot of time.
What did you do to get an older child prepared for their new siblings? What challenges did you face when the baby was born? What should we do in the coming months to best prepare him?