I think you're already doing great by including him in on the pregnancy. My daughter was 3 when my son was born. With her, I had to say and say again "Isaiah is not a baby doll." She confused baby with baby doll and when he came home from the hospital as a newborn, she kept trying to pick him up (she got him once off of our padded ottoman and as soon as she saw me coming she dropped him like a hot potato - he wasn't hurt but you see what I mean, she didn't *get* that he was a real person capable of being hurt and wasn't a baby doll to play with). So that's just a heads-up.

If he hasn't already, I think it would be nice if you could let your son pick a special little stuffed animal or something like that to give as a present to your daughter when she comes. He'll feel proud to be able to contribute something.

But overall, I think you're doing great. And don't be surprised if you suddenly at some point get super tearful and sad. I was surprised by that. But your relationship with you son will change. It has to. Whether he has another sibling or not, he is growing up. So please, if you get sad about the change coming for him as it relates to your together relationship - remember that the change will happen regardless of his sister's arrival. It is not her fault and it is not yours for becoming pregnant and changing things. Congratulations, and how exciting! Isn't is fun to pick out little girl stuff? Love it!

I agree with the above 2 comments. It sounds like you're doing a great job already! I had all 3 of my kids in 3 1/2 years. My oldest had a few jealous moments, mostly when my son had really awful colic and it seemed like all I did was hold him. I just tried to make sure my daughter knew she was still very special, wanted, and loved by devoting a chunk of time to just be with her. We also got her a brand new baby doll that she could take care of while I took care of her brother. She got so much enjoyment out of feeding, changing, holding and rocking her babv while I did the same with mine. My middle child had just barely turned 1 when our youngest was born, so we couldn't really prepare him. We got lucky though, his attitude was indifferent. He just went about his day like nothing had changed ha ha.

Some kids have a really hard time with the arrival of a new baby even if they seemed excited and happy before. One of our nieces, who was 2 at the time, freaked out when her baby sister was born. If the baby was within her reach, C. would hit and/or bite her. She actually tipped the bouncer over one time! It got to the point where my sister in law either had to hold the baby or separate her from C. with safety gates. She even had to resort to feeding the baby on the stairs (safety gate placed at bottom of staircase) because C. would beat up on her and the baby. Violence wasn't the only thing C. resorted to for attention, she also regressed. She refused to feed herself, wanted a bottle and a binky, tried to climb into the crib...This went on for 3 months. I'm not telling this story to freak you out because I'm sure your son will adjust just fine, I'm telling it as a caution. My brother in law and his wife didn't do anything to try to curb their oldest child's behavior (they'd yell at her/spank her and worst of all, they'd ignore her because they felt she didn't deserve attention when she was acting like that). All C. needed was some reassurance that she was still important to her parents. As long as you make sure your son knows he's still important to you and to your family, I'm sure he'll adjust to his baby sister quickly and easily.

Along with what sarahsmurfette@xanga said: You should expect the relationship between you and your son to change. I was surprised and happy to see someone acknowledge that!

I'm 15 months older than my little brother, but I've always resented my parents for having so many kids because it's hard to get close after about an eight year age difference. 3 1/1 years sounds perfect