Tuesday, 26 June 2012
We've been considering fostering and adoption for the past year, I think even before we started any fertility treatments. We wanted to do the treatments first. I don't feel that makes us selfish, it was just the logical next step. Over a year later and still no baby with the possibility of never having one, we haven't forgotten about fostering...
Something told me to look at our state's CYFD website late last week. I used to occasionally check the status of some of the children, but I put the idea out of my head to focus on the treatments... Until I saw that our county was having an orientation on fostering/adoption. We saw no harm in getting more information even if it's something we wouldn't immediately do.
When we got there they had snacks and 1 other single woman waiting. We introduced ourselves to her and waited. Luckily the woman running the orientation was also running a bit late so it didn't matter that we were too... The social worker was very friendly and we felt so comfortable with her. I actually felt more comfortable being in that conference room than I EVER felt in our fertility clinic. Maybe it was because I knew my vagina wouldn't be the main focus though...? Something about it all just clicked last night!
I did break down when asked what brought us there and made us want to become foster parents. I started saying "We've been married for almost 4 years and..." I had to hold back tears, I couldn't continue. I can't talk about our infertility without crying. It's too hard, it all still feels too fresh. Ryan explained our infertility and desire to become parents, we've never forgotten I don't have to physically have a baby to be a mother... We asked questions, she told us awful stories, and explained our options. She suggested the 3 of us at the meeting foster before adopting from the state. We're more interested in fostering at this point anyway, but I'd love the option to adopt eventually.
The awesome thing about all this, which I didn't know before, was that it's all FREE. We would even be paid monthly by the state to cover the care for the child(ren)! I don't care if I'm given a single penny, I guarantee these kids will help ME more than they'll ever know and if I can help them that's even better! Hell at this point I'd probably pay the state money for letting me finally have children in my home!
We left the orientation feeling good, but still undecided! We talked about it the entire way home. We don't have a lot of time to make our decision since only 1 training class is done in our county each year. We would have to turn in our application in the next week, training classes start July 10th and are every Tuesday and Thursday, and our home study will take about 4 months. She said we could potentially have a child in our home by the end of the year! How crazy is that?! We have a lot to think about and consider!