@Ride_Every_Stride@xanga - One of the differences is in the intent. You say, "While they have lots of money to shell out keeping their newborn quiet while they work out, this is also their job." Keeping their newborns quiet is kind of a weird way of putting it. How about getting to know your newborn? Meeting their need as their mother, as the person who created their life and brought them into this world? Nurture them. Being with them is not about hushing them, and that's why there is no replacement for a caring parent.

I guess I also just don't see how it is a celebrity's "job" to live in a gym and look perfect 24/7/365 no matter what else is going on in their lives. And that is where in my post I meant, "Are celebrities capable of letting someone else have the spotlight all the time?"

Having dated an actor at one point in my life, I know that that one question would be a very profound one if asked seriously to any in the industry.

Secondly, I never downed the working mother. I was also a working mom at one point in my life.

         FYI i did have a c section thus the two months heal time and ripped stiches. I just didnt pack it on during pregnancy, i craved milk and potatoes more than anything and couldnt eat anything sweet it just wasnt good. I almost slapped my husband when he brought me mountain dew half way through a charity walk, i was soooooo thirsty too.  Im not someone who pays attention to numbers or scales if im living healthy and feel good then im happy.  I dont really concern myself with pressures from others or media, or anyone elses weight for that matter.  Once your happy with yourself you can ignor all the bs flying around you.

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - I found the bone thing out first hand.  My daughter is 15 months and I'm still in plus sized clothes because of my hips.  They won't shrink back, even my stomach is flattening out but my hips won't change.  lol

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - There was nothing wrong with my grammar & my comments were easy for anyone with an IQ above 10 to read. Nice try, though, hitting me where it hurts. *sniffle*

I can't imagine what it is like to be a celebrity and a mother. Women are expected to be able to do everything perfectly all while looking like a bikini model. This is especially true for celebrity moms.  Things won't change until women put their feet down.  No woman should be forced to give up her rights as a mother because she has to put on a show for the public, but celebrity moms are forced to do that. If you aren't blessed with a body "built to have children" you are going to have to work to get your body back to where it was.  The time spent in the gym could be time spent with your child.  I couldn't fathom giving up the time I had with my son when he was a newborn to get my body back.  I don't think I would do it.  I  was going to comment that some people have different priorities, but then I thought about it, I do not know any of these women.I don't think I have the right to say that they care more about their bodies and looks than they care for their children.  I have no idea how much of time their children spend with nannies or with their actual mothers.  I think some celebrity moms are probably phenomenal mothers and others not so much.  Just like non-celebrity moms.

I know the OP thought that the other people who shared their stories were competing with each, but I saw it as simply sharing experiences with pregnancy and dealing with a changing body.  Pregnancy and after pregnancy for women is a time where near and perfect strangers feel like they have the right to comment on your body, weight gain/loss and whatever else.  It was hard for me because of PTSD and having an eating disorder.  Hearing people talk, and poke, and gush about my body after pregnancy.  It was hard not to let it fuel my paranoia about other people looking at me and judging me.  I am sure it is 1000 times worse for celebrity moms because their pictures and bodies are dissected by everyone.  I think the women that shared their story did so because they could identify with celebrity moms on some level.  

@Ork58@xanga - There are two issues with just doing it, as they say. One, to do those strenuous exercise programs you can't breastfeed. You will lose your supply because the body needs a certain level of fat content and caloric intake to make milk. Two, pregnancy causes the abdominal muscles to separate. The degree of that muscle separation varies per woman and per child, but it always happens. You cannot rehabilitate separated abdominal muscles by doing crunches, sit-ups or anything like that. Those exercises actually make it worse as the forceful forward motion tends to further separate the divide rather than approximate the sides. You can't treat a postpartum woman the same as any other exercise client, especially at first. You will do more harm than good.

I always find it interesting when men in general try to motivate women to exercise. Maybe it's just been my experience of this, but the needs of a man and the needs of a woman in motivation are not the same. The male trainers I have had tended to be of the mindset that if you break a person down, they'll want more and will do more. For me as a female that won't work; for me to do more, make me feel better about myself, not worse, and then I'll be more psychologically and emotionally willing to give another set, to do 8 more. (Example: male trainer left me crying by saying things like "look how weak you are now, in 6 weeks you'll be stronger." I felt defeated, weak, and definitely didn't have the will to do more. The female trainer the next week said, "you have a beautiful back, lets work on those shoulders too." 10-4 good buddy, lets do more.) So when you say things like quit whining, it comes across as dismissive and not motivational. Even if your intent was good.

(I tried very hard on my end to keep comments prior (the cat fight as it were) from being snarky and tried to stick to the conversation.)

I am editing to add that I agree that for some it would take weeks and not months to get into shape satisfactorily. I agree. But you can't do that immediately after having had a baby without consequence. Something will suffer. It will likely be harmful to someone. This article was about doing that immediately after childbirth.