Tuesday, 19 June 2012
Or else someone will judge us for not getting back in the gym quick enough. They'll think we're a lazy slob who doesn't care anymore. Worse yet, we'll feel that way about ourselves. What's wrong with us that we don't look like that 6 weeks postpartum?
Who else has felt that way? I have read article after article and seen story after story of celebrities who go insane right after delivering their babies in order to "get their bodies back." We've all seen it. We are bombarded by it. I actually think it has become sort of an expectation that once we pop out our little ones, we should bounce right back. As if nothing had ever happened. Instantly.
I wonder where this ideal came from, and who thought it was a healthy thing to do? I'm not actually sure I believe it is true? What we see presented before us is often so photo-shopped; nipped here, tucked there, Spanx galore and who knows what else is going on behind the scenes. But we see only what we are presented with. It is the only truth told to us. So secretly? We believe it.
How many of these celebri-Moms do you think actually spend a significant amount of time with their children? That's the question I'm starting to wonder. Are these children being raised by nannies and caretakers while their mothers worry about dieting and getting in enough time with their personal trainers? One of the biggest changes for me when I became a Mom was that everything was not about *me* anymore. It was about taking care of my daughter, and then also my son when he came along. It became about someone else. Are celebrities capable of letting someone else have the spotlight all the time?
I just don't think it's a fair expectation to put on ourselves, or for society to put on us either - that we should be bikini-ready within a couple of months after we have gone through such a traumatic ordeal. We put our bodies through enough in the last 9 months and more.
I have actually started to feel really sorry for the new celebrity Mothers out there. If they don't kill themselves in the gym upon discharge from the hospital, they'll read about it and see unflattering pictures everywhere. The pressure put upon them is often from others, from the outside world. The pressure put upon us as regular Moms? We put it on ourselves.
So give yourself some credit, Momma. You are too hard on yourself.