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So you've just had a baby and you're exhausted, right? I don't have to tell you that--you're so tired that you haven't brushed your hair in three days and your perma-sweats have started to adhere directly to your skin. And the last thing on your mind is clearly bringing back the spark and romance with your husband, cause as much as you love your little bundle of joy, you certainly can't handle another one right now.
But you fine mothers everywhere, one the of the most important things you can do post pregnancy is remind your husband that he's just as important and sexy as he ever was. Remember that's how you got to the place where you are now, so you can't let that relationship fall by the wayside.
But you're thinking that you're so tired, how are you ever even going to get the energy to turn up the heat again? Well, one of the most important things you can do is make sure baby is on a sleeping schedule that facilitates post-slumber friskiness. If you can put them down well before the extreme exhaustion hits, you're more likely to be able to throw down like you used to. You're going to be tired no matter what, but it's about compromise.
It's also about the little things. While your date nights may have changed, you can still make an effort to make the every day special and new. The small things can make all the difference, so kiss him randomly in your hallway, sneak up on him in the shower--this will save you time, too!
If you feel like you're in a rut or so focused on baby, it might be time to start exploring. If you're relationship was fairly vanilla up until this point, and even if it wasn't, take your hubby to a sex toy store and have him help you pick out a new toy. There's so many available today, you're bound to find something that will please both of you. He'll also see that you're trying and that alone can work wonders for both of you. Can't leave the house? That's OK, you can head over to Adam and Eve
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However, if you're just getting back into the sack after child birth, it's important to be open with your hubby because you're about to experience a lot of new sensations. You might find that you have a hard time getting "excited" now, so make sure you have lube around. You'll also find that you're more prone to yeast infections, so be sure to pee afterwards and clean up well. And lastly, if you're not looking to get pregnant right away, be sure to take the proper preventative measures, because you're the most likely to get pregnant again right after you've had a baby.
Just remember to laugh and have fun. While things certainly aren't the same, you still keep the spark alive. Trust me, it'll get you through the really tough days.After you had your baby, how long did it take to become intimate again? Did you have to work towards it, or did it come naturally? Did you try anything different or new?