Tuesday, 15 May 2012
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Tell Me Tuesday: Are You The Mother You'd Thought You'd Be?
Back when you played with dolls and pretended to be a mommy, you had a certain way of doing things. You diapered and fed your baby a certain way, and you pretended to take your baby to the park or to the grocery store. You had this whole little world imagined, and it was perfect.
But was it reality? Was it a peek into your future?
Are you the mother you'd thought you'd be?
Why? What's different?
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"Are you the mother you'd thought you'd be?"
Nope.
"Why? What's different? "
I lack the ability to pass a bowling ball-sized object through my non-existent hoochie.I am not a mom, but I did play house when I was younger :)
No... Im not the mother i thought I'd be... I thought I'd give birth to my little ones.. but instead we adopted.. and i wouldnt have it any other way.
It might not be what i thought, but in many ways its better.
Definitely not the mom I thought I'd be. I thought I'd have a lot more patience and tolerance than I do now. Said I'd never yell at them for drawing on the walls... or the couch... or the other furniture. WRONG! lol I do give them free-reign over the privacy fence however, they can draw, doodle, and paint all over that all they want.
lol I am the mom I thought (and everyone else thought) I would be :D I was born to be a mom and I love every aspect of it ^-^
When I was lil I played mommy but also I was the cousin everyone asked to take care of the babies, I just remember loving babies all of them since I can recall, since I was a lil toddler all I wanted was a baby. I have 2 and they're perfect :)
Not in the least.
I never dreamed of being a mom.
I did not play with dolls.
I didn't "know" how many kids I wanted, because until I met the man I would eventually marry, I did not WANT children.
It took me years to come to that choice...but when I did, it was with absolute commitment.
My daughter says I am all the mom she could have wished...so perhaps I was not the worst...but I always gave it my best...and remembered that I was the one who said "yes" to being a mom.
Definately not. I side with galadrial@xanga I wasn't a doll playing girl. I wanted to work on and run a farm. I wanted to put all I had into agriculture and the amazingness that it is. Instead God saw it fit to place an amazing man into my life and get married. I am now the mom of 4 children I never imagined I'd have. I am now venturing into homeschooling (I was public schooled and thought if I had kids they would do the same). I honestly expected to be far more patient. Some days are better then others. But I wouldn't change any of this for anything though. I really do love being a mom and though I am not raising animals and getting dirty with ag. as I thought I would, I can teach my kids to love the God given earth around them and how to take care of it. And I now realize that being a mom isn't for the faint of heart and it isn't the easiest job in the world but it is the most rewarding!!!
I never wanted to be a mom. Ever. I really disliked children and their loud mouths, dirty faces and snot. That's how I viewed them anyway. I never envisioned myself being a mom to anything except maybe an old abandoned dog that only had a few years left. I had planned to have an incredible career, nice tan legs and a gorgeous boy toy.
When I got pregnant, I pretty much told myself that my attitude was going to adjust and that I could not fail my daughter in any way. My son was conceived only 8 weeks after my first was born.
Turns out, I'm crazy about my kids. Sometimes I'm a better mom than I thought I would be, other times I feel like I'm failing all damn day. I will say that before I had kids, I knew that forcing religion on kids was wrong, I did not like attachment parenting and that kids needed to eat healthy and get lots of exercise. I live up to all four of those except that I give them junk food from time to time on special occasions. What I didn't have any clue about before was keeping kids on a schedule, how to handle toddler attitudes and how to cook 3 meals a day. I'm a better mom than I ever imagined. I thought I'd never have the patience or maturity to handle it but thank goodness, I do...at least most of the time.
@MommaFish89@xanga - It's funny about how particular us parents can be when we're the ones paying for all the stuff our kids ruin. Sometimes I want to be more relaxed but when every dollar counts, I get a little tight about things. I kind of figure it's a good thing because it'll keep my kids from thinking the world is their trash can/
@Kuai_le1010@xanga - Too true. I always told myself that I was going to be the "cool" mom. The one that lets them get away with everything. Ha! The first time my oldest broke something of my husband's I thought he was going to have an aneurism right there. I was so used to my son getting into my things that I really didn't get why my hubby got so upset. I think I actually told him to "get over it" 'cause there was more to come. =/
@QuantumStorm@xanga - lmfao So what kind of mother DID you think you'd be? O.o
I thought I'd actually BE a mother, so... yeah....
No.
I never thought I'd be a mom. It wasn't until I met my husband that I realized I desperately wanted a child.
That being said, I think I do a decent job with my boy. He's happy and healthy, and I love him to pieces.Me too. Didn't think I'd ever want to be a Mom. The closest I ever came to playing "mommy" when I was a little girl was to put a pillow under my shirt and pretend I had was pregnant. My sisters and I did that and thought it was hilarious.
I babysat once and was traumatized for life. I wasn't sure I ever would want kids.
But now we have two, and we were thrilled about each pregnancy.
Realizing you have a good partner and Father for your baby makes all the difference in the world.
In a way yes. But, when I was pregnant with my first, I thought I'd really enjoy playing on the floor with them for hours. I do enjoy it....but not for very long. Playing Barbies, and make believe games is extremely hard to do. Lol. I always thought I would love it. For awhile, I thought I was a bad mom, but after reading a lot of posts, I am not alone.
@storyofmylife87@xanga - I feel the same way! My kiddos always want me to play games with them and I get so BORED. I really wish I didn't...luckily they have each other to play with since its not my favorite.
@VampireOfSeduction@xanga - I was thinking along the lines of the alien-busting-through-my-chest, motherly-figure variety.
@wretched_epiphany@xanga - I am not a fan of playing with my kids either. I used to feel guilty about it because we always hear how important play is to their development, and I wanted to be a part of that. Barbies are just not fun anymore, playing with cars holds my interest for maybe 5 seconds, and any and all make believe just bores me to tears. I do like to dance around with my kids, watch movies, read with them, and I always make sure I snuggle them and make them feel loved, but playing with them.... That's what they have each other for, right?
I always knew I wanted to be a mother. When asked in school to draw pictures of what we wanted to be when we grew up, I always drew me holding a baby. I babysat regularly as a teenager, helped out a lot with my cousin's daughter, and children have always really liked being around me. I used to picture motherhood in my head, and would just smile because I was so sure I would be perfect. When I gave birth to my daughter, I was determined to be the best mommy ever.... Her clothes would always be pristine, her hair done just right, everything spic and span.... Then reality set in. I found that while I was striving for perfection, I was missing out on so many things. I now have three kids, and the perfection I strived for nearly 6 years ago has been thrown out. I now just try to do what's best for them, and don't beat myself up when I make mistakes. As long as my kids are happy and healthy at the end of the day, everything else just doesn't seem so important.
I had no idea what kinda mom I would be. I never played mommy/dolly... I seen the movie dolly dearest and chucky... was forever scarred.
I think as a tenn I thought if I became a mother I would allow my children to speak up for them selves without deeming them disrespectful little rotters.