Thursday, 10 May 2012
Jenny and I are both just about to die with whatever bug we're both sick with. She has a follow-up with her pediatrician tomorrow early in the morning so I decided to have her sleep with me because I just washed her bedding yesterday. I figured we'd both sleep in my bed and be sick, then I'll wash my sheets tomorrow.
I've heard of people doing the whole co-sleeping thing, where you sleep with your baby - why! I can't sleep with my baby. She's driving me nuts! I'm waking up every ten minutes with her kicking me in the gut. Around midnight I woke up about every five minutes with scratches all over my neck. I was so out of it - it took me almost twenty minutes to realize Jenny was shredding me to bits. I've had to go dig up her mittens and turn the air way up so she doesn't get overheated. Now she's latched onto me - yeah okay it's super cute and everything - but every time I move her she does it again. I don't want to crush my baby. Plus, we're both sick so she keeps coughing on me.
Is this what co-sleeping is like? Mom not-sleeping. My sister, who has seven kids, says she never sleeps when one of them gets in bed with her. I don't know if I'll even be coherent for her appointment tomorrow. On the other-hand, Jenny's sleeping really well, and she's not a good sleeper. On the other-other-hand, I have to function too. I'm not going to deny that it feels nice to be close to her and all that jazz, but I won't lie - it feels the same as when she's watching Sesame Street in my lap, or 'helping me do my work', or just chilling on the couch.
I mean come on, I didn't grow up sleeping in my mom's bed. Why would you do the co-sleeping thing? I just don't get it. For all the people who say it's super dangerous and everything - it probably could be, but I'm sure there's a 'proper' way to do it. I really just don't understand why anybody would. I do see that Jenny's sleeping much better than she normally does, but eventually she's going to have to learn to sleep that way on her own. If she wakes up crying in her nursery, fine I'll wake up and put her back down. Surprisingly, that's much less of a hassle than her keeping me up all night - in my own bed.
If we were to co-sleep every night, wouldn't she become co-dependent? - something I'm already worried about being a single mom. If she stays in bed with me every night, how would she learn to sleep on her own? I'd think being in a room across the house, far away from mommy, would scare her. I would think if a mother and child were so close that they shared a bed, that it would be dangerous for a child's social development. (I'm a teacher child development is something I'm familiar with.) How would the kid learn to do anything on their own? Would it get to the point where they wouldn't want to go anywhere without their parents?
To me, it just makes no sense. I can't sleep. I don't want to get back in bed because I know Jenny will glue herself to me; and I don't even want to think about what's going to happen tomorrow when I try to put her back in her crib. All I wanted was to save time on laundry. Ugh.
Sidenote: My 19-year-old little sister (who is a major wimp) still gets in bed with my mom when it storms, but in all fairness storms are really violent where I grew up. I can see how they scare her - but it's still hilarious.
Editor's Question: Did you co-sleep? Why? Why not?