My daughter was not an easy baby, she had colic and (has) asthma. I was often up with her at night for hours because of it. However, she never had an actual bad attitude. She normally has a very mellow, easy going feel about her. Except for her random three year old moments she is a very sweet, caring and compassionate little girl. The first time I ever had to give her a time out was when she was 26 months old.
With my son though... things seem a little different. He had heart issues when he was born and also had GERD but seemed like he might be even more laid back then my daughter. I think I was wrong...
He is very demanding! Not in normal baby need's mommy way. More in a bad attitude sorta way. He can be very sweet but then you do something he doesn't exactly care for he smacks at you and gives you this, "And you better not do it again!" kinda look. He huffs and puffs and screams at you while making this very angry face. He is only nine months and has such a bossy attitude!
I have actually had to stick him in "time out" (the playpen) a few times this week for him to cool off. I made sure everything was taken care of with him and tried to "reason" (comfort) the little guy but that only makes him angrier.
Any other parents experience there nine month old have a bad attitude? Ever have to stick them in "time out"?I know he look's like such an angel, doesn't he?
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@snarkius@xanga - lol not sad! Cloth diapering is fun! (I'm addicted!) It's a kawaii but we only use a few of them once in a while with flats... the rest we have are sunbabies.lol
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@totay@xanga - @Pollypinks@xanga - @greatredwoman@xanga - @SoMuchWin@xanga - I was joking a bit with the words "time out" and "reasoning". I don't punish the little guy. lol
I
put him in the play pen more for a cool down for the both of us. I have
a now four year old as well and it's easier for me to get frazzled and
by me getting frazzled I'm pretty sure he can feel that so we take a
break. I don't shame him. I just put him in the playpen with a few
blocks. But like @sarahsmurfette@xanga said... It's more of a distraction because nothing else I have done to comfort him helped to calm him.
The
post was more of a way to connect with other mothers who have babies
with similar personalities or issues and get some tip's on comforting
them other then the playpen.
Still, thank all of you ladies for
your feedback. It's still helpful and I LOVE that all you ladies care
so much about infants and don't have that "If it ain't my kid, it ain't
my business!" attitude lol.
honestly the best way to comfort them is to let them learn self soothing. I don't personally have kids but i'm around kids and babies 24/7. Sometimes you just have to let them cry .
Is better to put him in his crib to cool off. We as mothers try to comfort them and teach them the right things, but we can get frustrated. Is better to let him cry it out or have his baby tantrum while you relax yourself even if you don't get angry.
It sounds more like you are just letting your son be alone to cool off and you should not feel bad about that. For his and your sanity, that is sometimes necessary. My child was (is) the same way. Very demanding, very smart for his age, and was very poorly behaved at a young age. I sat him in "time out" a lot and I've seen nothing but positive things from it. I find it hard to read the comments from those who are not parents.
I wish I'd known a lot of stuff when my children were small. It's always like that looking back, and studying and reading about things. It's aways amazing they grow up to become decent people anyway! The one thing I learned from a study was when toddlers are having melt downs, often times it can be good to "parrot" the child, in other words, "It sure looks like you are upset today. Sometimes I feel that way too, and when I'm upset like that I do etc. etc... I've also noticed toys are not made anymore to teach kids to learn. Everything is costly, with a gazillian batteries in it. Baby Einstein had to recall thousands of product after the University of Washington did multiple studies on whether these things actually made kids read earlier, and guess what? They don't. So what they had to do was take the word learn off of the front cover. I remember making mud pies, playing with sticks, playing on the back yard swing set, playing on the tether ball, I'll explain that one if anyone doesn't know about it, swimming in summer, bike riding, just basically doing a lot of physical exercise which is now being suggested because of the level of childhood obesity and type two diabetes around that wasn't when I was a kid. A snack was an apple, or a half a sandwich. What are we doing to our kids???
@Pollypinks@xanga - I remember tether ball! lol I was terrible!
Yeah I try to keep t.v. limited and stick to the out doors with my 4 year old. Summer is basically here so my son will be experiencing grass, dirt, balls, bubbles and bike rides.
I have three kids and I can't imagine a nine-month-old is old enough to exhibit an attitude. Also, I can't imagine putting a baby in time out at all. If my baby did that I wouldn't even react to it. I'd just let them be. If he did hit me, I'd probably gently say, "no". I just don't believe human babies need alone time at all. It just doesn't sound logical to me at all.
im sure a nine month old will not notice its in time out.
You should never put an infant in time out. It's a crucial time for bonds to be developed. This is how babies learn to trust their world and ignoring their cries is just stupid and neglectful.
And people thought I was some sort of mean mother for doing the same thing. My son is a darling, he is so happy, wakes up without crying, he will play for hours by himself, pretty much puts himself to bed when he's tired, hardly ever fussy (even after shots) he is 8 months now but at around 5 months, he started this crazy attitude thing where if he didnt get exactly what he wanted ( like me to stop cleaning his nose or to give him a toy that was out of his reach) he would throw these little screaming fits. Then if/when you got close to pick him up he would scratch at you or bat at you face with his hands or even kick. I have a scar still on my left cheek from him. So me and my husband started the time out in the playpen. he would scream an fuss and carry on for a few minutes but then he' chill out and stop. we would get him and tell him whatever we needed to tell him and he was cool. He hasnt done it in a while but when hes fussy he wants the playpen
All kids are different some of them need alone time. my son wakes up in the morning and lays in his crib babbling to himself and talking to his stuffed animal and if you go to try to get him before hes ready which could be up to an hour or so he gets pissed off. so for everyone that its neglect to let them cry- its not going to kill them to cry a for a few minutes, and some kids like to be left alone ( not unsupervised just with out someone holding them and all up in their face) and if you let them hit you when they are little, its been my experience that the same habit will continue as they get older. so you just go ahead and keep letting your child slap you in the face and you just keep saying "no' gently and when they're 5 and 13 they'll be kicking your ass.
I don't think time out will be beneficial to a baby as a punishment... but if it helps you cool down then I don't really see the problem as long as afterwards you give him some cuddles :) I have a nine month old too but he's a complete angel, I'm so lucky!