Tuesday, 01 May 2012
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Tell Me Tuesday: What Do You Miss About Pregnancy?
There's a lot of things I miss and don't miss about being pregnant. I miss the feel of little kicks and squirms. I miss my husband touching and kissing my belly. I miss poking my belly to try and get baby to move.
I don't miss the cankles. I don't miss the constant hunger.
So, tell me, what do YOU miss about being pregnant?
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I miss being able to use my belly as a table.
I miss the baby moving.... That is about it!!!!
Nothing. I absolutely hated being pregnant although sometimes when I am annoyed and my son is misbehaving, I do wish I could stuff him back in there and get a break for a couple of hours.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - I've seen a lot of comments that you've made in general on different blogs about your child. You seem very angry and resentful, and I think a few deep breaths would probably do you a great deal of good. Holding on to anger and negativity will not help you and will not provide a good environment for your family. I'm not saying this to be rude, I'm saying this because we all have those days, but they shouldn't be more often than not.
As for the question, there is actually a lot I miss about being pregnant even though the first half of each of my pregnancies were miserable due to Hyperemesis. I miss the squirms, the hiccups, and how beautiful my body looked with full breasts and a large belly. I miss moving little feet away and out of my rib cage and most definitely getting to lean back and use the belly as a table. I'm glad we get to TTC this year!
@TiPrometto@xanga - I am not angry and resentful toward my child. I don't even know where you are getting that from. If you read my blog than you would know that I love him more than anything. I sometimes forget that sarcasm does not show up in a comment. My son is well loved and everything I do is for him. The only thing that may make me seem resentful toward my child is the fact that I am up front about the fact I hated being pregnant. I did. I am not ashamed of that fact, but that does not mean I don't provide a loving and caring home for my child. It doesn't even mean that I didn't love him when I was pregnant. I did love him. I liked listening to his heartbeat, seeing him on ultra sounds and all that but guess what, I still didn't like being pregnant and I still don't miss anything about it. I have my son with me.
As for the comment about stuffing him back in my uterus, more often than not, my son is well behaved and I think that he is wonderful, but on the days where he is having one of his moments, yes I do think that if I could put him back in for a little while, we'll both be good. It was a joke. Even when he misbehaves I think he was wonderful and I love him....And I will stop there, your comment brought out the mama bear in me and if you thought my sarcasm sounds angry...my anger is actually worse. I know you didn't mean to be rude, but I absolutely resent anyone just suggesting that I don't provide a loving home for my child.
@TiPrometto@xanga - A little judgemental are we? Sorry, but I see nowhere in this post or any where else where she is resentful towards her child. Have you not read her blog? Like every one else, she revolves around her son. To be quiet frankly, there are days when I'd sell my child for misbehaving but once again, that's completely normal for a parent.
As for the question...
There is nothing that I will miss about being pregnant. Infact, I can't wait til this pregnancy is over. The BEST part of pregnancy for me is the very end.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - This comment, "My son only responds to yelling. You don't even have to yell, just use a stern voice. He laughs if he is spanked. he'll even take you hand and smack his butt with it. he doesn't care if you take things away. He'll find something else to do. You can not let him touch any of his toys; he will just run laps around the house. You can send him to the naughty chair and he will just pout while he is in it and go back to doing what he was doing once you let him go. If you yell, he'll stop and remember what you yelled at him about.", shows signs of someone with a lot of anger issues. I know this because I've dealt with them. Coupling that with a few other comments (which I'm sorry, but I'm not going to dig through months of posts for) and this last one - and Yes...I see an angry person who should take a step back and take a deep breath. I didn't mean it at all to make it seem like an attack. I don't read your blog, I don't know you. My apologies.
But sure, with how my day's going...I could see how it could be like that.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - im sorry this person is attacking you...... this is one of those times i wish the editor of this site would step in and put a stop to this attack.
EVERY mom has moments where their child drives them crazy, its called parenthood... and some people are as receptive as a rock when it comes to sarcasm.
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as for the question... I adopted and Im a fostermum, so there is nothing for me to miss. I'd like to experience it once.
I miss, hubby messaging my back, giving me foot messages, and kissing the big baby belly. I miss him getting me whatever craving i was starving for lol
He really pampered me when I was pregnant. He still does, but I make sure I pamper him back as well! I also miss not having to carry around a huge car seat carrier where ever I go, because baby was right in mommy's belly haha.
I guess those are the things I miss the most.
I definitely miss feeling the baby move around, and having the hiccups! I also miss the way people parted for me at the grocery store. I don't miss the poking and prodding at the doctor's office, nor do I miss not being able to sleep on my back!
Overall though, I must say that I very much enjoy being pregnant when I'm not pregnant. Lol.
Honestly, I missed nothing about being pregnant after I had my 2 girls. I'm pregnant with my third and I won't miss anything this time either. The kicking is the best part, for sure but I don't love it enough to miss it.
I miss the hope of having a child. :(
@TiPrometto@xanga - Show me one parent who has never been frustrated with a child. Be quick about it, I don't have all day.
@TiPrometto@xanga -
Not going to lie, I thought back to that yelling comment she made and thought the same thing you did.
Except for the occular migraines, I miss everything about being pregnant. I loved being pregnant so much thanks to my relative easy pregnancies I often wish I could just be a surrogate mum for the next ten years. I am sure no one else does though. I am a total bitch when I am pregnant, but I usually don't realize what I was doing was a bit bitchy until several months after birth.
@TiPrometto@xanga -
I really don't think it is any of your business to be sharing her business. Get a grip and get over yourself. Every parent has days that are filled with frustration - don't even try to say that you have yet to have a day like that. Her blog is her outlet. Let. It. Go. If you cannot handle what she has to say then exit out of the blog. Grow up.@TiPrometto@xanga - Yelling was the only thing that ever worked with me growing up. Grounding, spanking, or taking things away never worked from the time I was a toddler until the day I moved out. All it took was for my father to raise his voice and I knew to step into line. I laugh at the idea that my dad has an anger problem because he is one of the most laid-back people I know.
If are trying to claim that critizing someone's parenting techniques and telling them they suffer from anger issues it not a form of attack, you are either completely ignorant of the most basic of social interactions with other people or you are just passive-aggressive. I believe you can get treatment for both of those.
Pregnancy is a beautiful thing to experience, I was very excited when I found out I was pregnant. I miss my daughters dad talking to my belly, listening to her heart beat, and all the weird cravings I had.
I am about 13 weeks into my first pregnancy... I can't wait! I can tell you what I don't miss right now and that's throwing up 4 times a day. Everyone was right the second trimester is already so much better!
@Erika_Steele@xanga - I agree 100%
If I HAD to choose something that I miss, I miss that moment when you get to hold them for the first time. But, technically....you're not pregnant anymore, lol!
@TiPrometto@xanga - wow, you're rude. Yelling was the only think that worked for me when I was growing up. My parents never hit me, but the only thing that made me listen was my parents raising their voice - I automatically stopped whatever it was I was doing wrong because I knew my parents only raised their voices when I was doing something bad. It doesn't make them bad parents. They knew what was effective for me, and guess what, it worked. I rarely got in trouble growing up because I knew when to stop being naughty and cheeky and when to listen to my parents.
You have no right to judge her parenting skills based on a couple of comments on blogs. Everyone gets frustrated with their children occasionally. It's called being human and being a parent.
@TiPrometto@xanga - Apology accepted. It really did feel like an attack, and it hurt. I did respond in anger here and on my blog because it hurt. I don't normally let things people say on the internet hurt me except for when it comes to my family and I shouldn't. When I yell at my son, I don't call him names or make him feel bad. I raise my voice and usually it is only John Stop (don't do that or any other variation of stop) and then I explain to him why he needs to stop and then I redirect his energy somewhere else. I do not do all of those things for one behavior, that would be ridiculous and out of control. They were things that I have tried and didn't work with my son. I only tried them at the insistence of others, but now I am pretty firm in my knowledge of what works with my son. I don't even bother with anything else besides yelling his name anymore. I am not the type of person that is going to do a blog length type of comment on an "ish" site. It would be different on the person's personal blog. So I didn't explain that in the past I have tried other things that didn't work because my son doesn't care. I just said they don't work. Any thing I write that comes of as angry is likely due to the fact I don't like writing long drawn out comments on ish sites.
I'll admit to having anger issues, but I assure you they are not directed at my son, my husband, or any other person. My anger is usually self-directed and I have come a long way with that as well. I know I have made vague comments about having an eating disorder and resenting the changes in my body. That doesn't mean I did not want to be pregnant or bring my son into the world. I loved him. The issues in my head had nothing to do with him. I am very sarcastic and cynical. I am sure I've said some things that were meant to be a joke. I apologize as well for my outburst, I should have taken a step back but I don't think I could have with this one.
As far as the pregnancy thing goes, I wanted to be able to enjoy my pregnancy but it sucked. I'll explain more calmly here than I did on my blog yesterday. I felt great for two weeks and then I had to have surgery to remove a cyst from my ovary. It was extremely uncomfortable and extremely painful. In the beginning it was more painful than labor, to the point I even took the pain meds my doctor gave me. After the surgery the nausea returned with a vengeance. I also had to get these hormone shots, to prevent pre-term labor because of the surgery that made me more hormonal than pregnant women already were. So talking to my son was great while he was in there, but it was beyond joyful to get him out. Since this was my only pregnancy, I have nothing else but the words of others to tell me it was great. Sorry, I don't believe any of you. I will stop because this comment is way longer than I want it to be.
Okay, what the heck people? I have a 3 week old newborn, I'm a little busy and can't be moderating the comments constantly. This post was about WHAT DO YOU MISS ABOUT PREGNANCY, not an open invitation to criticize and attack someone else.
Knock it off. This is the warning. If it continues, I'm deleting comments and then closing the comments.
Call me hormonal, I don't care. Momaroo needs to be a safe and inviting place for moms, and with personal attacks like what has just happened here, it's not going to be.
A note for everyone: If you see personal attacking, please send me an email at mandiwelbaum@momaroo.com so I can address what is going on. Like I said, I'm not able to constantly moderate the comments right now, but if I see an email comes across I will do my best to see what's going on and take action. Thank you.
@thatkyliegirlx@xanga - I can see how that comment comes off as angry now that it was pointed out. For the full explanation, read my response to TiPrometto. I rush response many of my comments and I don't like leaving long comments on ish sites. I reserve those for personal blogs. To clarify, I don't stand there yelling at the top of my lungs. I yell John, Stop to get his attention and redirect him after explaining why he shouldn't do what he is doing. I do not do all of those other things (time out and spanking) because he did one thing wrong, I should have clarified that in the past when I tried those things, they didn't work so I don't bother doing them any more. When I re-read it, it does sound like I yell and send him to his room and spank him and yell and put him in time out and yell. I should have been more clear.