My son only responds to yelling.  You don't even have to yell, just use a stern voice.  He laughs if he is spanked.  he'll even take you hand and smack his butt with it.  he doesn't care if you take things away. He'll find something else to do.  You can not let him touch any of his toys; he will just run laps around the house.   You can send him to the naughty chair and he will just pout while he is in it and go back to doing what he was doing once you let him go.  If you yell, he'll stop and remember what you yelled at him about.

Yes my parents yell. It seems silly. You can say the same thing with a level voice, yelling doesn't add anything of value to the logic of the conversation nor does it make the other person listen more attentively.

When arguing, yelling is the recourse of the unintelligent and moronic.  

I think it can be a question of temper. I always feel like the people in the south of europe yell a lot more than the people in the north for example. It's funny. I guess can be a cultural thing. I also live in an area in my country where people seem to be typically loud. But they are always loud, they even yell when they are being nice. Noise (such as loud voices) doesn'T annoy me when I feel like it isn't dangerous. I don't think it has to be bad.

I think if you make the expierence that yelling is followed by things like physical agression or neglect or someone yells at you when you already cry or does it to someone else, it is scary.If someoe is simply loud but soon friendly again and if it's their general nature it's no big deal. I had a teacher who always looked as if her head was going to burst whe she got angry, and at first I found it scary but later it wasn't anymore. Another point would be wether it's predictable. If someone suddenly freaks out about something they normally tolerate you see something is wrong. (possibly that's what your friends felt, because they weren'tused to it).

It depends on the person what is scary.

P.S.: I am very quite but I think people who force themselves to be kind but obviously are angry are more creepy. I so agree with the picture.

Adults yelling at each other is not normal.  I was not raised in a home where my parents yelled at each other and they got along horribly.  They just didn't yell.  They discussed without us around or whatever.  They would sometimes yell at us if say we ran into the street without looking.

I do yell sometimes at my kids, like when the cat brought a lizard into the house and I freaked out yelling at the kids to get it out. haha Well, that might have been more terrified screaming.  I have yelled at them when their actions can cause harm, as I was as a kid. 

There's a difference between yelling, "STOP" and yelling, "You stupid idiot stop doing that shit right you little monster". 

My parents screamed bloody murder at each other all the time. Cussed at each other, called each other horrible names. Slammed doors and stomped around the house. I never invited anyone over because I was so embarrassed. My mother was abusive and often times would target ME so I especially didn't want to have friends over for that reason. Also, they yelled when they disciplined my brother and me. It was horrible.

My opinion is that yelling isn't okay. Occasionally, parents will lose their temper and might raise their voice but I'm of the firm belief that you should treat kids with respect in order to get their respect. Respect has no room for YELLING. I will not yell at my children. It was ineffective for me, it was ineffective for my brother and did nothing but give us self esteem and authority problems. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that yelling at someone is an appropriate way to communicate disapproval or anger.

To this day, I can't handle someone raising their voice at me. It gives me anxiety.

I plan on being a gentle disciplining parent. No yelling, no spanking, and rarely giving time outs. Kids will be kids. They are suppose to rebel. They are suppose to question. They are suppose to push your buttons and test boundaries. It's my job as a parent to explain, educate, and nuture... not to scare or harm.

All my dad ever does is yell. My siblings and I don't really bring friends over because he's got an unpredictable temper that sets off over nothing. His yelling never did much to stop us from doing things; it just made it so we started hiding eveything we did.

@LadyGwenivere@xanga - This has nothing to do with the post, but I think it's awesome you adopted a couple kids :)

Anyways, My mom CLAIMS her and my dad always fought... I can only think of a few times when they did. It was mostly them fighting with my older brother... BUT.. My mom and step dad? Thats a whole different story.. They fought all the time.. Christmas sucked because there were fights (I lived with my dad but visited my mom alot.. I now live in the same country as them) Vacations sucked as well.. But, They seemed to have stopped fighting as much, but I wouldnt know too much since I dont live with them... My 2 little sisters fight all the time, but they are siblings, its more normal, lol.

@sarahsmurfette@xanga -
My family had/has a lot of problems I never realized until now that I'm an adult. As a kid I just accepted the fact my parents yelled a lot, and I had to deal with it. It's weird to think back that I was never really upset about what my parents did, and just accepted it as normal when nobody else did it.
There has always been a lack of respect though, that's for sure. I always thought it was a typical parent-child relationship, they can do whatever the fuck they want and I have to follow their rules. I'm 21 years old and if I upset my mom over something trivial, I still get sent to my room without being allowed to make supper. I shower when she says I'm allowed and I have to be careful flushing the toilet after 9pm.
I can understand where my moms boyfriend gets it, his entire family is just extremely loud all of the time, mostly deaf and drunk. But my mom's the only person on her side of the family that ever yells. I've heard my grandmother yell less than ten times in my life, and my aunt and uncle have always used respectful conversation to dicipline their kids... so I don't understand where my mom got it from.

I felt a little better lately because me and my moms boyfriend were outside the other day and two little girls drove by on bikes and sped right up while saying, "hurry, that's where the mean lady lives!". I don't know if they hear her yelling at her boyfriend and me, or if it's just when she's outside screaming at our dog (who's never been trained to listen, of course) all hours of the day.

Yes my mom yelled. And I hated it. I don't. Well I did for a little bit when I was pregnant with my youngest and it made me sick to my stomach and I had to work on it. Thankfully back to no more yelling. 

of course if we were bad as kids.

The neighbours which used to live next door to us before they split up had a son who was good friends to I was 11 and throughout the secondary school especially when I was 14 and 16 he decided to have band practise at his house.     really annoyed us,    but after secondary school he grew up and became fine with us.

Towards the end of his mum and dad married they used to row and yell a lot,  bang doors,  played loud music.    Nor even mention about his dad and new partner as they moved out pretty quickly,

@thatkyliegirlx@xanga - I was like you at one point. I got told the same thing. But guess what? I am NOTHING like my mother. I think people like us can be very lucky to have the experience we had. We didn't get shown the RIGHT way to raise children, but we got shown what NOT to do and we can take our parenting in the completely opposite direction.

Yes, there's yelling in our house. And it's almost always unnecessary, undeserved, overwhelming, and hurtful.

@thatkyliegirlx@xanga - I completely understand this and feel the same way myself :/