Wednesday, 21 March 2012
Lately, I find myself tired of being judged for my parenting skills. I hear it a lot through my family, but through others as well... I need to be more firm, I need to do this or that... or that my kids don't behave and I let them run a muck. One of my favorites is I need to discipline my daughter more. Please! I'M TIRED OF IT! Stop telling me all this nonsense! You are not raising my children nor contributing to raising my children so... sit down somewhere and shut up! There... I said it!!!
I am a good mother... not perfect, but I do my VERY best! I do what I can with what resources, energy, and other creative thinking I have or can come up with. I work with my kids and teach them good manners. I teach them to speak properly and have good etiquette. My children aren't starving, unsupervised, running around with no clothes, or anything else of the like. They don't do without... ever. No matter what I will comb teeth and nail to provide for my children. Fortunately though, I have a well paying job (enough for us to live somewhat comfortably) and I don't have to comb teeth and nail.
My kids have more than they could want and I make sure to teach them to be grateful for it. I am involved in their learning and on top of their preschool teachers. I go out of my way to make them know that I Love them. I work hard to give them what they want or need. I create memorable moments for them. I teach them about having God in their life and spirituality. I teach them the importance of sharing, caring, and loving one another, especially each other in our family. I teach them the importance of family and how together we must unite and work as a team. I praise them when they accomplish any feat, no matter how miniscule or great it may be. I thank them for following directions, saying please and thank you, saying yes/no ma'am/sir. I teach them how to apologize and mean it. I teach them that their actions mean more than words.
I discipline my children and they know when they have made wrong choices. I am firm with my children and I should not have to sit here and explain what I do and do not do for people to understand. I am a single mother who is doing it all on her own.
People are so quick to judge when sometimes they need to look in the mirror. I know many mothers in similar situations or even married ones who feel like single mothers. It's no easy feat. We should as parents and especially mothers, unite and commiserate in the ups and downs of parenting instead of always quick to judge and say "I would do it this way if those were my kids." Well guess what!? They are not! You do what you do with your kids and I will do what I do with mine. If you want to commiserate or I come to ask for advice ok, then do it. Unsolicited advice, however, is not needed or wanted... especially in the form of negative criticism. It all boils down to this... If you don't have anything nice to say, then just DON'T say anything at all.