I don't know the exact circumstances of the situations you're describing, and that might change my opinion, but I think you might be being a little too sensitive here.   Yes some people can really be jerks about it, asserting that they're right, you're wrong, and that you are therefore a bad parent and a bad person.

However, the woman at the coffee place might not have been trying to tell you off, but simply wondering.   "I thought pregnant women aren't supposed to do that," isn't necessarily an accusation (though it can be, tone matters).   Instead it might be a genuine question, or the person might be assuming that if you are doing it it must be okay, and is wondering why doctors changed their mind/why she had that wrong idea in her head.

Also, there's a spectrum of things a person can say to a parent that range all the way from genuine advice that you can take or leave based on their experience as a parent AND the understanding that not all babies are the same, all the way to flat out insults to your character.   someone saying "When my kid wouldn't sleep through the night I did x and it worked" is not necessarily saying it will work for you or that you're a bad parent if you don't do it

@jenessa1889@xanga - The picture is a funny take on the title, because regardless of what anyone says, or what doctors suggest, yada yada yada, people are still going to parent the way they want to. That picture is one of many that are geared at funny right vs wrong parenting techniques. The picture is funny, the post is serious. Hopefully others see it as such.

I hear about this all the time. I think that parents should start saying, "Fuck off" to people who don't mind their business. Honestly, I really do. As long as you are able to tell reasonably what is a person trying to help, and what is a person being nosy and inconsiderate.

'Cause some of those pregnancy lists are a little insulting to non-pregnant people. Okay, on second thought, I think that everyone should exercise good manners to each other, and when someone doesn't, none of us should be afraid to tell them to cut that out.

I say you tell those people "I don't know, my baby seems to not be having problems" or "I thought that the way I raise(d) my baby was my business. I'm sorry if I was told wrong" and to have a nice day. *shrug*

There is nothing wrong with telling people, especially strangers to fuck off.   I rarely got unsolicited advice from strangers when my son was a baby, but  think it is because people think I look mean (one of my students even told me that  was small but intimidating).  The few times I did,  I am pretty sure the people that said something to me (the ones that wouldn't back-off when I gave them the death stare)  will think twice before approaching anyone else.  I wish I had I had a camera for the time  thanked this one lady and told her I refuse to do things her way because it was my intention to raise emotionally scarred and crippled children that were unhealthy as humanly possible because I didn't want any of my children to have a snowball's chance in hell to to become functioning adults let alone succeed in life.

I'd rather have poeple give me advice since i am a new pregnant mum now.I am still inexperience in handling baby when baby is going to born and so forth:)

What's amazing to me is the women who've never even had a kid, who sit and bash how you're raising yours'. I want to especially hit them over the head. My cousin was 80% deaf because of fluid in his ears and everyone constantly ripped my aunt a new one for giving him things when he pointed to them or signed for them instead of making him talk, saying she was delaying his speech. He got tubes put in, and was speaking full sentences two weeks later. Every kid is different. My brother was running at nine months, my other brother couldn't even sit up on his own at nine months. People need to mind their own business. Suggestions are okay, but rude/snide comments and suggestive questions are just ridiculous. "With my kid, such and such really helped!" is different than "Why aren't you doing ______? Your child would be better if you did _______." So ridiculous. Even worse if your child has a developmental delay or learning disability! I can't even imagine what it must've been like for my mom with my brother and I having Aspberger's. There's no cookie cutter mold for parenting. It's pretty try and re-try if you ask me, and no, I don't have kids, but I've been a nanny for kids all over the spectrum, with spina bifida, with cerebral palsy, twins, all ages, etc. and raised my sister from the time she was born when I was nine, so I count myself as pretend mommy to quite a few awesome but sometimes troublesome kids. ;) Hang in there, dear! Ignore the haters and gather the supporters around ya!

I swear I read this exact post a year ago o.O I'm probably wrong but idk....t