Monday, 16 January 2012
When looking for something interesting to write about today I ran across an article Avital Norman Nathan from The Good Men Project, entitled Parenting is 50/50. In this blog post, she discusses a theory, fully supported by a friend, that parenting not only should be a 50/50 proposition, but actually is. They feel that it is society who sets it up to be so mom-centric.
Well of course, I agree that society plays a big role in how our families operate. However, I find myself wondering how many families actually “practice what they preach” when it comes to parenting being a 50/50 proposition. I also have to say, that I think nature plays a little bit of a part in this as well. My family has had many dynamic changes over the years since my husband was laid off from a high paying job three years ago. For a while, he was a stay at home parent. Now, we are both work at home parents and he attends school. Before he lost his job, I was a stay at home mom.
Through all the many forms our family has taken on, I feel like I am the one pulling the majority of the weight. For our last two children, my husband was able to take an extended paternity leave- even longer than my maternity leave. Yet, even so I felt like I was the one doing most of the work. Is my husband capable of doing it? Sure! I think he is a great dad and I trust him to care for my children 100%. But, if you ask me about the distribution of responsibility around our house I would say it is a whole lot closer to 80/20, with mom leading the way. This isn’t even counting the fact that I carried the babies or that I breastfeed, leaving all of that out of the equation I still feel like I do more.
So what is it like in your house? Are you a 50/50 household?