It's a good question, we've seen siblings have verbal and even physical fights, but would you call the police on your children who are arguing back and forth?
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Massachusetts mom did! Her 16 and 15 year olds were "bickering", and when she became fed up with them, she called police and told them she wanted them both out! There's more to the story, apparently the mom left home in the middle of the exchange to run errands and other children became involved. It's a mess!
Sadly though, part of her wish will come true. Her 15 year old son will be summoned to court for punching his 8 year old sister. The Department of Family and Children were also notified because of the situation at home.
So I ask,
have you ever thought the police could better handle an argument between your children? Would you ever call the police to come break up an argument?
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i wouldnt get the law involved unless, i knew it would get WAY outta control...
but i would deff try to handle it myself first...
hahahahahaahah. what? lol..
actually you can't kick a child out of the home until they're 16 at least.. if not 18 in some states. It's called child abandonment. (here) it's illegal to kick your child out of the home.There's no reason to call the cops unless they're actually assaulting each other..
@ohletitbe@xanga - The article said the boy punched his younger sister. Sounds like assault to me!
WTF is a 15 year old doing putting their hands on an 8 year old?
Regardless, Yes I would if it became physical.
I wish my mother would have on my brother... He beat the shit out of me regularly. I fought back but you know I was 5'2"110lbs he was 6'3" 200lbs.
She would pretend she didn't know about it...
In this situation, as described in the link, I would not call the police. If I were that frustrated, I would call a parenting line.This situation causes for the removal of privileges like video games, computers, TVs (some parents I know even remove doors and cut off electricity to bedrooms). The only way I would call the police is if m child was endangering themselves other members of the family.
I think the mom meant to call the police on herself. Leaving two kids at home alone in the middle of a fight; that's like leaving two dogs at home in the middle of a fight (for you Christians, replace dogs with Lions).
the epitome of the american approach to parenting. let the schools do it, or the police, or just simply neglect to deal with problems and leave. bah... she should go to prison.
I wouldn't call the police because of bickering, or because my older child punched my younger one. I'm not saying violence is okay, but kids fight all the time. There are better ways of dealing with it than giving your child a criminal record.
Maybe if she'd brought him up better, he wouldn't be punching his little sister.
@MiriamBeth@xanga - would you really call that assault, though? It's just siblings fighting, surely?
Only if it had gone past sibling nonsense to where someone was going to seriously get hurt. One of my sons called the cops on another and it was a complete nightmare for both. They learned their lesson and have not gotten tangled up since.
@MommyMarty22@xanga - Oh, dear girl. THIS is something utterly unacceptable! There is NO way your brother should have EVER laid a finger on you.
My 20 y/o son and my 14 y/o daughter are extremely close but they play-fight often. I monitor it VERY closely because he is a man and she thinks she is wonder woman! Sometimes they think that, because they are sibs, they can slap each other and such.
My sons (I have four, one still a baby and the others 15 and up) would never dream of beating their sisters or any other female! I am sorry your mother did not have more control and step in for you! I just wana hug you!
@MiriamBeth@xanga - Absolutely agree! I have a 15 y/o boy who gets really frustrated with my 9 y/o daughter but the second that his tone of voice and body language turns angry I step in and remind him that he is older, bigger, a boy, etc...
I also reprimand HER if she is instigating the situation, which she likes to do often!
If my son EVER laid an angry finger on ANY of my daughters, my frequent Ally McBeal moments (Google it) would become a quick reality! Hah!
My extended family call the police on each other all the time. They're pretty trashy though.
I don't think that I would call the police if they were just "bickering". What's described later though, with the 15 year old punching the 8 year old- that makes me wonder if they weren't just bickering, if perhaps one or both is violent.
I would totally not call the cops! She should have raised her children better in the first place, and should have intervened and gotten it under control, as is the job of a parent. There are all sorts of good punishments out there, and when you tell a 15 y/o you're going to take away their cell, they snap back into shape pretty quickly.The fact that she left to go run errands shows it wasn't serious enough for police intervention, and she should lose her 8 y/o for leaving her there with other kids fighting!
@TigersLovePepper@xanga - Thank you. My mom would have never aloud them to step out of line with her or my oldest brother... But the last three of us... We were up for grab's. She was pretty selfish back then.
She is a little different now.
1. I would not have left them alone
2. I would have tried to separate them
3. If a real danger was apparent I would warn them I was calling 911 and if that didn't stop the problem yes I would call If I could not get it under control
man i have seen fights between siblings (2 boys) that i wish they would have called the cops on them.
i mean i saw the whole thing from begginging to end and the parents tried there hardest to stop it calmy and tried to sepreate them but they just wouldn't have it
and you know what ended up happening, the dad trying to do the best he could lost his finger. HIS FINGER!!! and you know what it was all over? who drank the soda...
don't you think he wishes he would have just called the cops and let them see how serious it was?
so what im trying to say is, i can see where a parent would call, because they felt there was nothing else they could do
but then at the same time i can see why they wouldn't, because they don't want to see their kids get into any real trouble
I think it's completely stupid to call the cops on your kids fighting. She should have left and made her son go with her to separate him from his sisters. When a physical fight breaks out between siblings, you don't call the cops you try to separate them. Noone spends as much time together as siblings do so they are going to fight. There is nothing that you can do about it. If the woman can't handle it, she doesn't need to have kids at all.
I pushed my sister out of my room, once. Glad my mom didn't call the cops on me! phew! Holy cow. I'd try and step in. the only time I'd seek help is if one of my kids was threatening the life of another or had weapons or something, because that's obviously a lot more serious than normal sibling bickering. Calling the cops and wanting to throw them out at 14 and 15? That's crazy.
@written_conversations@xanga - Yeah petty fights with siblings aren't something to get worked up over, I've had my moments with family where we just slap and run like hell and for some reason that's punching. Since the article doesn't really elaborate on how bad the violence was I can only go with the boy punched his sister pretty hard, possibly continuously, which isn't acceptable.
Hell no! My brotherr and i fought all the time. Its what siblings do. My brother did karate and was clearly stornger than i was but that didn't stop me from fighing back. Seriously people need to stop with this kind of bullshit. Unless he was thretening her with a knife then the mom needed to deal with it. End of story.
@written_conversations@xanga - It's not just two siblings fighting, how can you expect an 8 year old to defend themselves against a 15 year old who is much stronger than them?
Forget the police--- where the hell are the parents? How bad is your life (and your parenting skills) if you let it get to the point where you would think about calling the cops?
I feel like most sibling fights can be taken care of by the parents themselves. There is a clear difference between abuse and just being stupid kids.
@MommyMarty22@xanga - There are 6 years between me and my younger sister, she constantly used her age as the advantage and still does. I can recall being balled up in a corner while she hit me but I couldn't do anything about it for I was the older child. I would get the "Do you know how old she is and how old you are" talk from throwing one very weak punch to attempt to scare her away or something.
It is not a fun age gap if you don't get along well, and it is still hard to relate to her and be able to talk to her these days.
@MommyMarty22@xanga - My mother was a far better grandmother than she was a mother. I understand...