Wednesday, 28 December 2011
My partner and I would eventually like to be married with children. I felt that we were on the same page, mostly, with how we belief we should raise our children until we get onto the topic of baptism.
We were raised in two different religions (I was Mormon and he was Anglican) but neither of us follow either Church anymore or 100% believe in God, Jesus Christ etc. I see us as being non religious people, against the institution, but open to the idea of a higher power.
Aside from the different believes the two religions have over when a baptism should be preformed our biggest issue that my partner claims could make or break us having children is WHY we should have our children baptized. Baptism to me, or any association with a Church is based on a commitment and belief in that Church. My partner sees it as a tradition and something to be done to respect his family.
He doesn't like my rational and I don't like his. I see no point in bringing in religion for a few hours and then leaving it again. This would be my own family that I am creating and I want mine and his wishes to be what we personally want and not based on what our family would think of us. I also feel it would be disrespectful to use a ceremony such as baptism and not commit to the Church. He sees no harm in going along with it and actually finds more harm (to his family and community) if we don't do it.
This is a huge topic that gets really really deep as I'm sure some of you can imagine but my question is: If you and your partner share different beliefs on the role of religion in your child's life how did you decide what to do?