My own personal beliefs are this: baptism is meant for those who understand what it means. That means it's your child's choice as to when and where and to what church he/she dedicates his/herself to and that also means that they have to be old enough to make that decision. Take note that there are NO infant baptisms told of in scriptures. It may state that a man and his family were baptized, which I'm sure included infants, but infants were not baptized by themselves, considering that baptism involves full immersion, NOT sprinkling on the head. Not even Yahshua (Jesus was baptized as an infant, he was taken to the temple and blessed at 8 days old, but not baptized until he was an adult. It's great that you guys are trying to work out your religious standings now, before you have children. But keep in mind that people change over the course of time. When I first met my husband, he was religious and I was atheist. Now he's agnostic and I'm a Messianic Jew and although he's trying to learn with me, things haven't been the smoothest. I would suggest really sitting down and discussing what things you agree upon and what you don't, even make a list if you need to. Then if you feel the urge to attend a church, find one that you both can agree on. My husband and I don't attend church, we hold our own at home. I teach the children and give him lessons on what I know when he expresses an interest. But if religion isn't that important to you right now, I wouldn't worry about trying to get your child baptized just to please the relatives. Once you start down that road, it's a nightmare. They'll expect you to go along with every piece of advice they give, even if you don't agree. It's going to continue to cause a problem in your marriage, trust me. When you get married, you're married to that person and you have to live with that person. You deal with the family as a couple. Good luck with whatever you decide.

@MagisterTom@xanga - There is a difference between mainstream Mormonism, that I grew up in, and the Fundamentalist Mormons you see in places such as the one Warren Jeffs led. I got out of Mormonism because of my belief in same sex marriage (one held by many other faiths). Mainstream Mormonism I see as really be no different, less or more cult like than Catholicism for example. Keep in mind I didn't come here asking for your opinion on Mormonism and it is actually irrelevant to the question I am asking. I added that information just to show how there would be differences such as Anglican belief in infants baptism and the Mormon belief of baptism at age 8. 

I definitely get his temptation to just go through with it to avoid his family making comments.

On the other hand, it feels to me disrespectful to people who actually believe to go through with a supposedly sacred ritual when you don't believe it's sacred.

My family is traditionally catholic, and we still do traditional catholic burials including a Catholic mass, but plenty of us are now atheist and we skip communion.
It's not that we're trying to make a demonstration out of sitting through communion, but that we genuinely feel bad about accepting a sacrament we don't believe in anymore.   If they knew we were atheist they would be highly offended at us taking communion.

It's tricky because we want to respect the deceased, but we also want to respect the faith of the living.

same kind of deal, on the one hand it's respectful to his family and their traditions (not to mention it's much easier to explain) to get the child baptized, and the kid won't know so who cares, but on the other hand you want to respect their belief that it's actually a meaningful ceremony, not just a tradition.

I say skip it, but that's just me

@MagisterTom@xanga - it's all a cult... every religion is a cult

I don't believe in doing things like getting your kids baptized just to appease friends and family. Neither of you are committed to the church. It would be a different story if he wanted the child baptized because he was committed to the church and wanted that for his child.

And I agree it is disrespectful to the church. I went to church here and there before I was 18 after I converted to another faith to prevent fighting with my parents and upsetting my grandparents, but I never took communion because it would be a lie.

I usually never comment but this is a topic that I myself am struggling with at the moment. I am Baptist and my boyfriend is Buddhist. My boyfriend and I click and I truly believe that this is the guy that I am going to marry and have kids with in the future, despite us being 19. Unfortunately he doesn't share my religious beliefs and although I hold onto hope that one day he will become Christian, I cannot count on it. Lately I've been thinking about asking him if we were to have kids, if he'd be okay with me raising our kids up Christian. Having parents of different religious beliefs is a very touchy subject. It's important to talk and discuss this out early on because if not, conflicts will occur later on when it comes to many things, such as raising kids. For me, since I am Baptist, I do not believe in infant baptism, but baptism reserved only for believers. In addition, being Baptist means that I believe baptism is only by immersion, not by sprinkling or pouring water. My hope is that my boyfriend will understand how important it is for me to want the best for my kids. Thus, I hope my kids will share the same faith that I do and in the future when they are old enough to understand the meaning of baptism and what it stands for, they can make the decision for themselves. I would not baptize an infant that does not understand what baptism is and what it is for. Like others said, if you and your spouse are not committed to a church, there is no point in baptizing because it is disrespectful to do something that would not mean much to you but holds a lot of importance to the church. Devouted Christians take baptism very seriously and I would not do it if it was not as important to you as it should be.

Honestly? I'd do it to placate the family. In particular, my grandmother, who would most certainly believe the infant would burn in the fiery pits of hell if not done at birth. The woman is old, doesn't have many more years, and I don't want her dying knowing that the child is doomed.
I'd also do it to uphold the family tradition - I was baptized at birth, my mother and all her siblings were, my grandmother and her siblings were, and her mother was as well. And so on and so on. They even use the same baptism "dress". Who knows how long this has been going on.
I'm not what you call a Christian, either. I don't subscribe to a church.
This ritual does have meaning to many. Just not to you...or me. But I'll still follow through with the silly tradition. Everything doesn't have to be about me and my personal beliefs. Sometimes it's about family.

Please don't cheapen baptism by having your child baptized into a faith you don't even hold to.  

Baptism is a ritual for a lot of people and rituals are important to humans because we find comfort in them. And they give families who don't see each other much a chance to tighten family bonds a bit. I think you shouldd give it a go...but that is just my opinion.

I usually dont comment on posts but I feel that this is something that I should inform you on. I wont even touch the topic of people believe mormons are a cult religion... I'm not a Mormon, tho I do not believe that.