Saturday, 29 October 2011
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My Husband Won't Touch The Baby Bump
This is a guest post from For The Love of Baby!
My husband is a wimp.
As I get further into my pregnancy, I am now at the stage where there is no denying that feeling….these two little rascals are moving around. It is the most awkward, creepy but yet amazing feeling in the world (well, except those rib shots).
So as I begin to feel what is a new experience for me (Uh hello, I have FOUR legs and FOUR arms moving around in there!) I of course want to share it with those close to me. Aubrey and Kelsie both love pulling up my shirt to “HI BABIES!” or give kisses. The other day, I got Aubrey’s hand just right and one of those little guys kicked his sister’s hand perfectly. Her eyes lit up in bewilderment as she held her hand up “Baby kicked MY HAND!” Seeing that reaction was priceless and of course, she wanted to try again.
Now on the other hand, my husband refuses.
Read the post of this post at For The Love of Baby!
{Editor's Question} Did anyone's husband or significant other refuse to touch their baby bump? Did they have a reason?
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My husband is always touching my stomach. He loves feeling him move. I would be a little offended if he didn't. I mean, it's his SON after all.
Is he unhappy about the pregnancy or have fears about multiples? It kind of sounds like he may have a mental hangup about the babies.
I think the part about the kids touching your belly is so cute, I love seeing childrens faces when there is a new baby around, it's so precious. As for the husband thing, he may just be afraid of having more children or maybe he is thinking farther along in the future, like financially for their lives to be a good one.
What?! Did he touch your stomach for the first two pregnancies, or is this something new?
I would be so upset if my husband acted like that.
My husband got creeped out when my daughter would roll across his hand or move her foot across his hand. I yelled at him to get over it and made him feel lol. I don't blame you, it is rude for him to act like that.
He needs to grow up.
oh dear.. my fiance always touches my bump. his daughter is in there after all..
Oh, I honestly don't remember! I say to chase him and scare him out of his wits on Halloween.
First of let me say Congrats!!! I'm happy for you. Second I think a man who won't at least try to feel for they kid(s) has some issues. But i can't really say much i haven't had kids yet but I have felt my goddaughter when she was still in her mom. It was really really awkward but it was so amazing. I hope he gets over it because he is missing out on something special.
I think it is kinda gross, reminiscent of catching a possum in a tater sack and having everyone come around to feel on it and guess if it's rabid or not based on how much of a ruckus it causes when you poke it or summat
What's the big deal? He is not touching it because he finds it weird and creepy. This does not mean there is anything wrong with him. It's not like he is refusing to touch her because she is fat. Even I found my two kids movements creepy because they always looked like they would pop out of my stomach like an alien in a bad sci-fi movie. There is no way I would willingly touch someone else's pregnant belly no matter how close I am to them.
Some men just find it uncomfortable. It doesn't mean he finds her gross and unattractive, or that he's immature, it just means he doesn't like feeling things move around inside. Yelling at him to grow up and get over it isn't likely to change his outlook on the subject. If anyone needs to grow up, it's the person doing the yelling. I'm sure there are plenty of things you don't like to touch.
hahaha reminds me of my dad. he is all sorts of squeemish. whenever I was little and I had a bump or something on me he would NEVER touch it... :P
My hubby loves bonding with my baby bump! She will be here within the next couple of weeks he talks to her and rubs my belly he is already in love with the kid! Im to the point where im ready to have her but its going to be weird to not be pregnant and having an alien flipping around inside me lol.
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It is a big deal. And I understand why this is upsetting.
Some men it just freaks them out. My husband loved touching, and talking to our daughter while in my stomach yet my sister and her husband were the opposite. He never felt the baby move around, he never talked to the baby. It just depends on the man. Like I said some men just aren't baby guys, some men enjoying having kids but just want to play and interact with them when the kid is older. I wouldn't put too much thought into it. Everyone is different. You could always ask him what the deal is. see what he has to say.
Hmm...that's odd to me! I mean no disrespect to your husband but, if this was the case with mine I'm pretty sure I'd be very upset; but I can understand that not all individuals are comfortable with the feeling. I just figured it's different when it is your own child and especially your significant other carrying your child - but I can't speak for anyone other than myself. Nothing wrong in speaking to him about it though.
On another note - congratulations on having TWINS!! That's amazing. :) Best of luck and love for your family!
My husband would until the kids would start getting really active and rolling. He could handle the kicks but the rolling really freaked him out.
My boyfriend will put his ear to my stomach and say "hi babies" in a cutesy voice.... and I'm not pregnant. its really weird, but also funny.
Congrats on your twins! :]
I would feel extremely hurt if my bf/husband wouldn't touch my belly.. My ex didn't do it a lot, but he did feel my stomach a few times. I would just tell him how you feel.. if he doesn't take the initiative.. it's his loss.
@peachass@healthkicker - hahahaha awee that's cute! :]