Tuesday, 20 September 2011

  • It's Not Easy Staying At Home

    Raising two children (and a husband) is not as easy as it may seem. Throw in crazy out of whack hormones and emotions that are still trying to recover from the delivery complications that followed Maliya's birth 6 months ago and having a son that is special needs.

    It's almost enough to drive a woman to a cigarette after she hasn't smoked one in four and a half years.

    Tonight has been one of those nights. The ones from hell that make me wonder what the hell I was thinking when I had another baby :( The ones that you cry and just feel like the tears will never stop no matter how much you wish them to. The ones where you want to get in your car, step on the gas and drive as far as you can, as fast as you can.

    I wish I understood why Mama hates the bath. Dillon loved the bath and he still does almost four years later. She screams like someone is stabbing her with a hot skewer through the foot. I gave her a bath tonight because it had been at least a week since her last. I figured it might be fun since she is sitting up now. 

    Wrong. So wrong.

    She screamed probably harder than she ever has in her life. Her head turned a weird shade of purple-y red from screaming so hard. Once she was out, she burped, spit up and then smiled at me as if nothing ever happened. Fast forward and she's eating her bottle like a pig...starts gagging and spits up a good amount. All in her neck, back of her head, ear, hair...everywhere. Too much for a wipe job especially after I had to fight with her through a bath. So she went in the tub again because I did not endure that for her to smell like funk from spitting up that much and just being wiped down. It was a quicker bath because I just had to wash her neck, hair and face. She still screamed bloody murder.

    I don't know how I do this. I really don't. Some days, I wish I could throw my hands up in the air and just quit. 

    The life of a stay at home mom...you may think it's easy but trust me, it's nothing close to that.

    What are the things that, as a stay at home mom, drive you crazy?

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Comments (7)

  • Brilliant_Innocence@xanga

    I hate the days when it seems like we can't go half an hour with good behavior, lol. Tantrum here, tantrum there. Tantrums all the flippin time! lol  Then you just crave the silence of nap time or bed time or whatever. Ahhhh...

    I know how it is. You're right, being a SAHM is NOT easy and anyone who thinks it is either hasn't been one or is delusional.

    (For the record, there are good days too and I still love it, but just sayin'...)
  • TiredSoVeryTired@xanga

    I hated not being able to eat one meal all the way through without interruption! 

    As far as the bath, have you tried bathing with her?  I did that with my babies.  It was easier on my back for one thing.  Some babies just hate the big whole tub.  Good luck!
  • her_pretty_thoughts@xanga

    I don't have kids, but used to work at a daycare so I definitely feel your pain. However, working moms definitely experience this too. It's not like they pick their kids up, take adorable pictures, and put them easily to sleep. Motherhood in general is just a big challenge, way worth it of course!
  • JM_in_SC@xanga

    @her_pretty_thoughts@xanga - I agree both working moms and SAHMs experience these days.  I've done both, and neither is any easier than the other honestly.


    But to answer the ?, the thing that drives me crazy as a SAHM is the same as @TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - not being able to get one single uninterrupted meal... at least when I worked, I got a lunch even if it was 15 minutes long, but it was uninterrupted and my meal was usually hot and I got to make uninterrupted phone calls also when I had some down time at work.  
  • wretched_epiphany@xanga

    My husband has come home to me crying so many times, lol.  Luckily he's willing to take over at a moments notice if he knows im about to meltdown.  

    I can't stand not being able to take a piss by myself.  My daughter has to follow me EVERYWHERE I go.  argh.  I think ill take that cigarette now. lol
  • Pollypinks@xanga

    You girls are to be commended.  I too was a stay at home mommie, 35 years ago, and joined this group because I just became a gramma, and things are so different now I need help!  They say a stay at home mother is the equivalent of two full time jobs, so pat yourselves on the backs.  It must be harder today, since there are fewer stay at home moms than in my day.  I had a whole neighbor hood of mothers to talk to, sip tea with, while our kids played each day.  I do remember the frustrations of making things work on a tight budget, and being exhausted with sick kids.  Working moms have more guilt, and the exhaustion can be overwhelming as well, as they feel so responsible for everything that goes wrong since they aren't there.  Kudos to all of you.  You can do this.  And one last thought that I wish I had internalized.  Even if it's only ten minutes, do something nice for yourself.  A hot bath.  A cup of tea.  Part of a t.v. show.  Something.  Just for you.
  • LupusInvictus@xanga

    Its hard being a mom. I don't think staying at home is anything special (just like going to work isn't anything special) - it all depends on how you manage your time

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