Wednesday, 24 August 2011
Being a mom is the hardest job out there. It's not a 9-5 job, where you can come home, crash in front of the t.v. and go to sleep for as long as you want. You're constantly on the move, cleaning up messes, wiping poopy bottoms, fixing bottles, changing outfits, doing laundry, doing housework, bandaging boo boo's, patiently waiting for the crying baby to calm down, etc..... I've often enjoyed articles in magazines, or on blogs, about confessions of moms. I've often enjoyed the honesty some moms share with the world about their struggles with motherhood. I'm jumping on that band wagon.
My daughter is now in the climbing stage. Need I say more? I'm teaching her to sit and not stand. If she stands on the chairs or rockers, she either sits down immediately or gets removed. Long story short, I had my back turned and she was sneaky. She climbed up on the rocking chair, did NOT sit down and ended up tipping the chair over until it fell. Big crash, loud cry... I was scared. I felt really bad. You have to have your eyes glued to your child every minute in order to prevent things like this and sometimes I feel as if I'm doomed to fail. Every bump and bruise sends me into a meltdown. I feel as if I'm a neglectful parent, when most likely, this is just normal every day things moms go through. So, let's get to the confession part....
There are days where I would love to get a job and leave my daughter with a nanny/babysitter/day care so that I'm off the hook.
Why does this make me feel guilty?
Because she's MY daughter, no one else's. She's my responsibility, and I shouldn't pawn her off on to someone else, just to get a break. Some days, however, it's very tempting. I'd love to let someone else get her potty trained, wipe the poopy bottom and deal with the bumps and bruises, while I've escaped to work. That said, I always come back to the feeling that being a stay at home mom and I shouldn't trade it for the world. Yes it's hard, but I need to suck it up, enjoy the time I have with my daughter and be grateful!
I once got into a debate with a fellow Xangan. He had mentioned how being a stay at home mom is easy, in comparison to actually going out and getting a "job". He said that fathers, who work outside the home, shouldn't have to come home and do chores. While I agree that the one in the home should do more work in the home, this common excuse really angers me. Hey, many women can do both, so stop with the excuses, some of you men! You can get off your butt too. I've learned that being a stay at home mom is the hardest job out there and sometimes the most thankless. That said, it can also be the most rewarding, it's just your attitude and perspective on it. I confess, my attitude and perspective is often skewed and I need to work on that! I love being home with her, but I have my moments. I do feel guilty once my moments pass. I would rather not have these moments at all!
Are you a stay at home mom, a work outside of home mom, or a work at home mom? Would you change that? Do you ever feel like you're doing things the wrong way?