Tuesday, 16 August 2011
I'm a single mother of a wonderful 8, almost 9 year old boy. His father and I never married, and ended our relationship not long after our son was born. We live in different states as well. Since finding out I was pregnant, I've been living with my parents in their house. This has been absolutely convenient for me as I not only work full-time, but up until May 2011, I was going to school full-time as well. I am now taking a break from school as I just graduated with my MA. It has been great to go through school and work knowing my son was being cared for by my mother. Especially considering the pregnancy was out of wedlock and my family is Catholic. They could have kicked me out, yet instead, they let us both stay with them.
I am looking to move out. Not because I am ungrateful, but because I think I am in a place now where I can do this alone. My son is older and does not require AS much care as he did while I was in school. Granted, he is still too young to leave at home alone while I work, but he is not so young that he will need constant care and supervision.
My dilemma is that I work overnights right now. I work 11pm-7am at my job. I work Fridays-Tuesdays. I would really only need child care for him for Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday nights. Friday and Saturdays, I am planning on letting him spend the weekend with my parents (the weekends he is not with his father, of course.) I am not doing this to take advantage, but rather keep the bond between my son and my parents strong. I am also looking into a schedule change where I may only need two days a week rather than three.
The apartment I am looking at is not only extremely affordable, but also closer to work (I travel 60 minutes now, I will be traveling 20 minutes if I move.) It is in a much nicer neighborhood and a much better school system.
Here is my question to all you moms out there: Has anyone else had a similar experience? Does anyone have any advice? Is this not the right time to make the move?