Tuesday, 16 August 2011
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Single Mom Looking to Make a Big Move
I'm a single mother of a wonderful 8, almost 9 year old boy. His father and I never married, and ended our relationship not long after our son was born. We live in different states as well. Since finding out I was pregnant, I've been living with my parents in their house. This has been absolutely convenient for me as I not only work full-time, but up until May 2011, I was going to school full-time as well. I am now taking a break from school as I just graduated with my MA. It has been great to go through school and work knowing my son was being cared for by my mother. Especially considering the pregnancy was out of wedlock and my family is Catholic. They could have kicked me out, yet instead, they let us both stay with them.
I am looking to move out. Not because I am ungrateful, but because I think I am in a place now where I can do this alone. My son is older and does not require AS much care as he did while I was in school. Granted, he is still too young to leave at home alone while I work, but he is not so young that he will need constant care and supervision.
My dilemma is that I work overnights right now. I work 11pm-7am at my job. I work Fridays-Tuesdays. I would really only need child care for him for Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday nights. Friday and Saturdays, I am planning on letting him spend the weekend with my parents (the weekends he is not with his father, of course.) I am not doing this to take advantage, but rather keep the bond between my son and my parents strong. I am also looking into a schedule change where I may only need two days a week rather than three.
The apartment I am looking at is not only extremely affordable, but also closer to work (I travel 60 minutes now, I will be traveling 20 minutes if I move.) It is in a much nicer neighborhood and a much better school system.
Here is my question to all you moms out there: Has anyone else had a similar experience? Does anyone have any advice? Is this not the right time to make the move?
Thanks!
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I wish you luck in this next big step in your life! Sounds like you are doing well for yourself and trying to look after you and your son's best interests.
It sounds like u are in the perfect place to do this.
A friend of mine was in a similar situation, but it was him and his daughter.
What you can do is find an overnight sitter. Basically, someone to come over after he is in bed, spend the night just in case something happens, and then leave in the morning. What my friend did was have the sitter come after his daughter was out for the night, and then she got her breakfast in the morning, and then dad took over again. It was only 3 nights a week and it worked out really well. And the started this when his daughter was 7.
I have been in a situation that was similar before. I lived with my mom for about 6 months when I was saving up to buy a home of my own. If you graduated school and your son is older, I saw make the move and don't hesitate. Often, babysitters do not charge much more for overnights, because the kids are pretty much sleeping the entire time. I think it is great that you are branching out on your own and wish you the best of luck!
finding childcare overnight is always tough!! Maybe there is someone you know that is in college and needs an easy job for extra money. I would gladly take a job like that where I put the child to bed (easy at your son's age!), slept there (just in case) and helped them get up and ready in the morning. That would be like a dream come true!!!
GO FOR IT!!! Look, you've done the school thing, saved up your pennies and now it's time to do YOU. Now I'm not saying that to say that you should be selfish, but you've reached that place where you can do it. It will work out fine. I'm making my way to the same direction, CONGRATS!!!