the dad left me. I am 4 1/2 months pregnant, preparing to be a single mom. at least i know ahead of time before the baby is here i suppose, but it doesn't cease the pain of being alone. 
being pregnant and feeling as if you're doing it all on your own, with no one to rub your back and tell you what an awesome job youre doing and how strong you are, is heartbreaking. 

I suppose I am technically a single mom, even though I have a boyfriend.
I knew before my girls were born that their dad wasn't going to be around for long, because he wasn't really around much for the last five months I was pregnant. Luckily I had plenty of love and support from my family, but it still sucks trying to do it alone.

Sometimes they'll do something that I'd like to share with someone right away, but there's no one else around to see it or for me to get excited with. Other times I need to get one thing done and if someone could just take them for five minutes it would be finished. Instead I have toddlers banging on the bathroom door when I'm trying to use the toilet.

Luckily I have a boyfriend now who is more than willing to help me out, but some days are still pretty hard.

#@SeeBeeWrite@xanga and #@kazztazz@xanga - I definitely feel the worse part of single parenthood is not having his father beside me to get excited with every milemarker my lil man meets. But as time has gone by I've realized I got to see this happen && his father is the one who's missing out, by choice.  I don't know if you've tried taking things in differently but this way of thinking has helped me A LOT!

I used to be a single mom up until my oldest was 2. To be honest, I still feel like a single parent. But now I have an 8 month old and a 25 year old (my husband) lol. It actually seems harder when there's a man involved. I kinda miss the good old days when it was just me and my daughter. I was able to do so much more for myself. I had a job, my own apartment, things were good. Yes, it was hard, but I got through it. For me, it seemed that it was easier when I had my finances together. It will get easier. And please please please!!! Do NOT try to find a man just to make it easier. BIG MISTAKE! You could set yourself up for a much harder, stressful life. I wish you the very best in your life.

*Applause* You are doing an awesome job at something that is nearly impossible. Nobody at all can really comprehend the difficulty of being a single parent unless that person is a single parent herself (or- rarely- himself) and all single mothers need to be congratulated every day by society. Believe it or not, that little person whom you are doing this for will recognize how much sacrificed for him- or her- and be eternally grateful.

I knew I was going to be a single parent since the day I found out
was pregnant. When I told the sperm donor he was in shock and blamed me
for everything. Yea what a night mare with him it was. I always wanted
to have a baby but not with him, just like everyone we can't pick our
"fathers". After years of really getting to know this person everyone
and myself finally concluded he is severely bi polar, a sad child
inside, and will never grow up into man hood. He needs help but thinks
he's great and has no flaws (sociopath). His family has had enough of
him and he's a raging alcoholic and crack head, my daughter doesn't
need that low life. I've always been a strong person and I knew I would
be able to survive. I always kept in my mind : This is MY child, MY
blood, MY blessing from god, why would I ever abandon this child?
Forget about the biological father he's not important what so ever. No
human that is normal and has a heart would abandon the only thing on
earth that would of loved him more than their child. I feel bad for who ever that person that ends up with him. My
daughter is like her sperm donor in ways but not nowhere as bad. That's
why I'm always praying that she wouldn't get the ugly traits he
carried.  You will notice traits that resemble your ex but always keep
in mind that it is also your baby and you will raise you're baby not to
be as a horrible human being like their biological father. The love you
have for your child should be greater than the love you have for
yourself and the biological father. That's another trait immature men
carry, they feel threatened that this blessing will take their
attention. The sperm donor would always get offended that I paid more
attention to her and he would always put more attention to me than his
own daughter. I fell out of complete love for him right there. My
mistake was i was naive and felt bad for him and it ended up in me
being pregnant. He was a monster and I'm glad she never has to be
around him to know him.

In society single moms are judged very
often and i've proven so many people wrong. People that have no kids
are not doing better than I am and they still point fingers? Forget
them they are only jealous because deep down they know they couldn't
handle a day in your shoes. :)

It sounds like a lot of ladies got pregnant and immediately knew that the guy wouldn't stick around, which makes me wonder, why would you be sleeping with a guy like that in the first place? I'm not saying that I waited until I was married to have sex, because I definitely didn't. But I definitely didn't have any doubts that they would at least be involved if pregnancy happened... why take the risk if you already know that the guy isn't man enough to take responsibility for his sperm?

I'm a single parent to an 8 year old boy.  Let me tell you, it has always been a struggle, it has always been stressful, and it has NEVER been easy.  But if I had to do it all over again, I would do it exactly the same.  Staying in the relationship with my son's father would have been awful.  He was terribly controlling and mentally abusive towards me (still is to a degree.)  We were fighting all of the time and I did not want that for my son.  Not too long after breaking up with his father, I met someone else.  We spent 8 years together and just recently broke up.  Even with him in my life, I still always have been a single mother.  My ex was rarely around my kid and we never moved in together.

Being a parent is tough enough.  But being both parents at once is ten times harder.  There are times where you are so frustrated you want to give up.  But I sit here as I type this and look at my son, who is working on some summer assignments for school and is about to enter the honors program in the fall, and I cannot help but know that it was me that helped him get there.  I have been working full time since he was three months old.  I went through college and graduate school (both full time) while taking care of him.

The best advice I can give you that I have followed all these years is when you feel overwhelmed and frustrated, take a few moments, and just hold him.  Because although he is too young for it now, that little boy WILL appreciate everything you are doing for him.  And at the end of the day, you know he loves you very much.

You're doing great!

Just think of the struggle of juggling jobs, college, social life and family is TEMPORARY (they will eventually go to school from 8-3, family/friends can offer to watch her, dhs can pay for daycare etc so you can do what you have to to make money/get an education). Giving your kid to another family so that "maybe they'll provide a better life" is FOREVER. Even when I get stressed out with trying to study in college and my kid is having a tantrum, I think "this is just temporary! She will soon be able to talk and reason why this is unacceptable. She will soon be able to tell strangers that "I love my life and being raised by strangers was NOT the best for me!" Im not saying adoption is bad. After college I am going to be a stay at home mom, have another kid with my fiance, be at home for my kids for alittle while before I start my career. My husband will be a chef and I will be a teacher so we will atleast have good income between the both of us. The "judgement" only stands if you let them whisper behind your back. SPEAK UP!!! Tell them off. Ask them what gifted tests has their children taken lately? My child knows a lot because I am home with her if I am not in college for the few hours that I have class... Im not jus sticking her in daycare from 7am-5pm working a dead end job thinking "Im a great parent!" just because Im alittle older. My daughter will be in kindergarten and ill be at home with one or two little ones making sure they are prepared for school-life. By the time I go back to work, my first born will be in 7th grade  and last born will be in Kindergarten/first grade. Id be alittle worried that I'll be "unavailable" when my daughter may need me the most but I'll figure it out once I get there. I have a plan so my life isnt over just because I had a kid. Our "teenage" years are temporary anyways... you can only waste your money on alcohol and "party all night" for so long until you have to buckle down and live in the real world. I didnt have tight friends to get introuble with anyways so I just had my child earlier than expected. Its alright... atleast I know what to expect in the future if I have more kids. I cant wait because my daughter has been with me through the most important time of my life. She will have the father she deserves and not born with. Instead of living in uncertainty, I will get to choose her destiny instead of being in a possible unstable marraige where ill end up divorcing and being a "single mom" anyways. She will truely have the whole world because us single moms will work hard to make sure it happens.