Wednesday, 03 August 2011
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This New, Incredible Feeling of Love!
I just recently had a little boy in April, and I knew I would love this child like no other. Honestly though, there are no words to describe it AT ALL. The only thing I can come up with is absolutely beautiful.
I love having my own family. Looking at my own flesh and blood everyday, and knowing my body produced this child, it's amazing. I haven't even returned to work yet (and it's getting to be about that time), because I just can't get enough of this little boy. I really wish that I could be a stay at home mom, but with the economy it's just not feasible.
Anyway, growing up I have always thought about how many children I would have and it's always been a 2-3 ratio. Well now I've got one. I do not under any circumstance plan on having another child anytime soon. It would have to be a couple years, and maybe by then my feelings will change.
Getting to the point, I cannot imagine having another child at this point. I want my son to have my 100% attention, I don't want to miss a thing. And I feel another child would most definitely be a contributing factor to missing a whole lot of things. Of course I want my son to have a sister some day, and maybe a brother. But right now, I do not want to share my unconditional love with any other child but him!
I'm not sure how mothers, can have children back to back? I can't fathom that at this point, grant it my son is only three months old and I believe I will over come sometime down the road.
But for now, do you mamas understand my chain of thought here? Or am I just being selfish with my love? Is that even possible?
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I understand your chain of thought. When we found out we were pregnant with #2, my daughter was 2 y/o. I had a hard time at first at the thought of the relationship changing.
But there's two things about that which you will eventually come to realize. #1. Right now, your son does need all of your attention. He's a baby. Completely dependent on you for every little thing. There's a reason for natural family planning (where if you breastfeed, you likely won't get pregnant for at least 9 months - I'm just saying this because it's nature's way of saying "yes, you get to be selfish for this amount of time with this baby."). People used to say that when the first baby starts walking, he's making room for a sibling. #2. Eventually, your son will grow up a bit. He won't need you as much. He'll become more independent. So whether you have another child or not, your relationship is likely to change around the age of 3 or 4, just like it is supposed to.
Enjoy the moments you have. They grow up too fast. What a gift.
Side note, the mothers I know who did have kids back-to-back? They either started having children later in life, and there comes a point when if you want more, you need to go ahead with making one. Or? The pregnancy was not intentional. A friend of mine (who chose not to breastfeed) went back for her 6 week post-partum checkup. And found out she was pregnant again. I would have had a heart attack. LOL!
@sarahsmurfette@xanga - yes, that is the truth. he does need all my attention. and i wouldn't have it anyother way. your words all make complete sense to me! i do not know what i would've done if i went to my six week check up and found that out! oh my lord. i would probably have a heart attack too!!!!! and they most certainly grow too fast. :/ it's a terrible thing, i want him to be little forever, although i am excited to watch him grow. having a child is has a very controversal toll on the heart!
I definitely can not understand having children back to back. When I had my son, I said I wouldn't have another (pregnancy was extremely rough on me). But I also didn't want to miss anything. He has an older half brother, but he lived with his mom until recently. I was able to give my son all my attention. He's five now and I still cannot believe how much I love him. We've talked about having another kid now, but it's almost too late. There's already an 8 year difference between the boys. So, if you do want to have more, don't wait too long!
@ohritz@xanga - 8 years isn't too big of a difference! My sister is 22 and our youngest brother is 9! I'm almost 11 years older than him and he really is the light of my life. Really, he is a wonderful blessing for our family and having him around really got me through many angsty teenage years and has helped me understand how to care for another person physically and emotionally! But whatever you have decided, I totally wish well for your family!