Monday, 18 July 2011

  • The Stress Of Changing Jobs and Moving

    Last weekend I moved house and jobs. Part of being a live-in au pair means living with the family and so when I lost my au pair job due to the recession, it meant that I'd also lost a place to live.

    Luckily, I had such a nice family that before they told me that I'd lost my job, they found me someone else to work for - a close friend of theirs that I'd met already. I immediately accepted as I want to stay in Ireland.

    I've moved around all my life, so I'm pretty used to it. But there are a few things that I particularly hate about moving now that I'm on my own.

    One of those things is that I have to rely on others to help me move. I can't drive because of my epilepsy or at least I shouldn't. I've been clear of seizures for two years so I can now learn, but I don't have the money. This means that I have to rely on others to help me move. I also have no place so that means I usually have to rely on others to store my things.

    What stressed me out about this move?

    I was leaving one place I had grown to love to a new place over an hour away. I was nervous and scared. I was going to be helping a single mother with three children - two girls and a boy. The eldest is 9, the middle is 6 and the youngest is 2. It was going to be completely new to me, and I wasn't sure how the kids would react to me. That was the most nerve-wrecking part. What happened if the kids didn't accept me?

    I had settled in nicely with the last family. What would happen if I didn't like this new family? Or they didn't like me? Or I just didn't like the place? I was worried that I was making a bad move, the wrong decision, despite having gone over the pros and cons to find out that the pros were ten times bigger than the cons on my list of why I should go.

    In the end the move went great, and I've now been in my new job for almost a week. Problems? None. Enjoyment? Lots. Stress? None. I love it here.

    It was definitely the right move for me I have no doubt about that. I couldn't have made a better decision and though I miss the family I was a part of for eleven months, I'm now a part of this family and have settled in perfectly.

    When was the last time you or your family moved? How did you adapt to the change?

Comments (3)

  • babybug329@xanga

    So glad to hear that your new family is wonderful and you love your job!


    The last big move was moving out from my family and moving in with the fiancĂ©.  The biggest challenge is working with his quirks and getting used to the idea of living together.

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  • WaitingToShrug@xanga

    Last September, my husband got out of the army and we moved from Germany to the US. I went from being a housewife to being the breadwinner, he went from being in charge of troops to part-time construction work and full-time school, and we both had to adjust from overseas isolation to being in the midst of US hustle and bustle (I love it, but it's shocking after the sensory deprivation of a tiny village!) and tons of family. It was tough, but nearly a year later, we've settled in and gotten used to it. :)
    I hope your new job goes well, and that your new home is good. I can't imagine how scared I would be to move into a family that I didn't know! I'm sure you'll be fine though.

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