Monday, 20 June 2011
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Fathers' Day is a Little Stupid
To the population of children and adults who have grown up with loving fathers who have been ever so involved in their lives, Fathers' Day is not stupid.
Fathers' Day is a little stupid because - there is quite a large population of children and adults who have lived their entire lives with deadbeats. Having a celebratory day is only rubbing this in. Living with a deadbeat does not mean these children do not love their deadbeats; it only puts cause for celebration on indefinite hold.
Fathers' Day is a little stupid because - the fathers who are not deadbeats never get what they ask for. While mothers get nice loving cards and thoughtful gifts for Mothers' Day: Fathers' get a manly lunch or a tie with LED lights.
Fathers' Day is a little stupid because - History and Travel takes it upon themselves to get inside a father's head and try to decide what kind of television program they enjoy. I assure you Travel: not all fathers are obsessed with Man V Food.
Fathers' Day is a little stupid because - while a good population of children and adults do not experience deadbeats, they do experience detached fathers who they do not know much about and do not feel an ounce of love radiating from their body.
Thus: Fathers' Day is a Little Stupid.
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@Hinase@xanga - I know it's not possible in all, maybe even most, parental relationships or even the cause. But if reaching out needs to be done and the parent isn't doing it, that then makes it your responsibility.
@Blind_Paraplegic@xanga - I sadly agree with you here.
And I honestly think, just be cause the woman is the one to actually carry the child for 9 months (it's actually more like 10), that makes her more responsible and accountable for her actions. Unfortunately not many people see it this way?
We should just do away with all holidays because we don't want to "rub it in" that they can't celebrate it.
My mother's a horrible mother, and my dad is way better at parenting than she is.
So: This post is a little stupid.
my son was forced to spend Father's day with his lowlife deadbeat "biological" father instead of with my husband (who has taken the role of REAL father since my son was two months old) whom he calls daddy and this is all because a court of law claims to know what is best for my son and is happily making my son miserable.
Father's day can be considered stupid to many people. It isn't to me because I love my dad, but it is to my son because he knows he won't get to spend it with who he wants to spend it with.
@GingerAvenger@xanga - It's a holiday of "rejoicing in the unknown" for people who don't have good fathers, just like mother's day is a bitter suckfest for me. Does that mean I go around telling other people not to celebrate their own awesome mothers? No.
I sympathize with the ones who've lost their family-- especially their father. I love mine, and I wish I he could see me get married, but seems like his mortality doesn't agree. Cherish the good memories, don't be bitter. If you're so broken over a relationship (or lack thereof) that you despise these 'holidays' then you should really look into healing that wound. Seriously.
@Blind_Paraplegic@xanga - *facepalm*
@xhalesx@revelife - I guess that makes sense.
wow... actually, i was about to agree with the author here...it is a little stupid, but i also think mother's day is a bit stupid.. here's some reasoning that came with this
Singles look at Valentine's day as single awareness day. You know what that makes fathers/mothers day? Awareness day for those who don't have fathers and mothers. For example, myself, my father died when I was 7 and my mother a few years ago when i was 20. Now, every mothers day and fathers day, i find myself at a loss for what to do because it seems like everyone is doing things with their mothers and fathers.
Secondly, at the end of the day, hopefully we aren't treating our parents like crap everyday and treating them well one day out of the year (ok maybe 2... their birthdays too). Essentially these holidays give us permission to treat our parents like crap until this day..
I wrote a counter arguement for you...
http://h91.xanga.com/750793548/fathers-day-is-not-stupid-not-even-a-little-bit/
and I'd like to pose a question, what about those of us who 'experience detached MOTHERS who they do not know much about and do not feel an ounce of love radiating from their body' ?
@Hinase@xanga - That's okay. Don't have to agree.
I recognize it's difficult for most people to see when the U.S. has it's head so far up feminist ass it's not even funny.
@Blind_Paraplegic@xanga - If it makes you feel any better, I don't like either of my parents almost equally. I dislike my mother a lot more than my father. ;)
Yes both fathers and mothers can be dead beats but I don't think there should have to be one pacific day to make you realize whether or not you should be thankful to your parents. Everyday you should be. I have a daughter. The father is not around... He's a loser! anyways, I brought my daughter to church one day and she was playing with these two little boys who asked her where her father was and she turned around and looked at me then shrugged and I broke down crying. So I'm pretty sensitive with the situation... I was bringing her to daycare and the kids were making "father day baggies" & I have no problem with that. It's awesome its just what does a kid without a father or mother do in that situation? makes the child feel out of place and awkward... So I don't think there should be a fathers day or mothers day...
@sarahsmurfette@xanga - agreed!
i also agree that there are deadbeat mothers out there.
so mother's day and father's day are for those who have a mother or father whom they appreciate.
i know plenty of kids whose moms are the ones who are mean and/or distant and some of their mothers left them.
sure, it's more common in dads, i suppose, but it isn't at all impossible for moms to be the same way. and not all moms love shows about moms and cooking or whatever.
see what i did there?
anyways,the point everyone's been making is that really, it could go either way. fathers AND mothers can be distant and/or "deadbeat". so...you shouldn't just target fathers.
Fathers' Day is a little stupid because - while a good population of children and adults do not experience deadbeats, they do experience detached fathers who they do not know much about and do not feel an ounce of love radiating from their body.
-hmmm guess thats why i dont celebrate fathers day. hahaha. do celebrate the old mans birthday though.
but the "origin" of fathers day is a lot like mothers day except its daddy that took care of his 6 girls after mommy died. thats pretty touching. they dont make them like they used to thats for sure.
A lot of people dont seem to get it. I'm happy for you because that means your dad probably wasn't a total douche. My dad is, so celebrating fathers day with him is pretty pointless but I still celebrate it with my granpa instead or all my guy friends that are good fathers and there for the kids instead.
It's too bad some people have dead beat dads, or fathers who have passed away, but that shouldn't stop everyone with great dads who have given so much to raise their kids from being celebrated.