Tuesday, 31 May 2011
I need some input here. This boy is driving me crazy. I have this friend, we'll call him Joe, and Joe has a serious problem with relationships...and really life in general. To understand we have to start at the beginning.
A few years ago he got his girlfriend pregnant and married her. I told him that it was pretty stupid on his part. I told him not to marry the chick, even though she was pregnant, but you have to know that this girl was pretty bad news and treated him like s#!t.
I don't know if he was blinded by love or just plain dumb, but he went ahead and married her. She cheated on him countless times, treated him horribly, and pretty much made him do everything with the kids (feed them, change diapers, etc. And one of them wasn't even his).
She hardly ever helped him, and when she did she threw a huge fit first. Eventually she left him, but he still had their vehicle so she pleaded she wanted to come home so he paid to go half way across the country to get her.
I told him it was a trap, and not to let her out of his sight for a second, but he honestly thought she loved him. BIG MISTAKE! She stayed with him maybe for two weeks and then one day after coming home from the store he got out the car to start unloading groceries and she took off with the kids and the vehicle.
This girl is a piece of work...she now has 3 kids from different guys, she's a stripper, and she seems to keep bouncing from place to place with hardly any stability. She did a number on Joe. Joe never sees his little girl because he is expected to travel half way across the country to see her every other weekend or some stupid arrangement like that and he can't afford that. So according to the tramp he's a horrible father, while basically she has ruined him.
On to the present: Now he swears he'll never be treated like that again so he goes through women like pairs of shoes. He's nowhere near like the guy I met four years ago. He's a man whore, but when he's not being a man whore he's being a girlfriend whore jumping from girl to girl.
He claims that he is just looking for someone who has their head on their shoulders. Now I should mention that he's had a little crush on me for a few years now. I graduated from college and work a full time job. He basically is looking for someone like me. The only problem with this is he dates these young 18, 19 year olds who don't have a care in the world.
Now some people are more mature for their age, but these particular girls are not. But now my friend has gotten himself into quite a pickle. His last girlfriend is pregnant with his baby, and they just recently split up. (I'm not sure of the real reason. He said he couldn't handle the constant fighting.)
He already has a new girlfriend, who according to him is "the one." She's in college and has her head on right (which if this is true she would dump him because no smart girl is going to deal with double baby momma drama, you know?).
I want to get some sense into him, but I don't know a good way to get him to listen. You might wonder why I care, but he is my friend and as a child without a good father figure I would hate to see his children grow up not knowing him. I don't want him to wake-up one day and be like...man I sure did screw up and his kids are already teenagers and are not receptive to "now I want to be your daddy."
And I know you can't make people do something they don't want to do, and you can't change people, but if anyone has any suggestions on a good way to get through to him I'm all ears.
What do you think would make him listen?