Wednesday, 25 May 2011
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Dan's Fat Chick
C'mon people! Are so many people so stupid? Can you not tell when a woman is posing post-partum for you?! Can you not tell the difference between a woman who "doesn't care about herself" and a woman who just had a baby??
Note: The dark line from her belly button to her underwear. Pregnancy!!
Note: The "front butt", where her abdominal muscles have split before the baby was born. Pregnancy!!
Note: Big boobs and smallish shoulders not typical of a "plus-size" or "big girl." Pregnancy!!
Guess what?? Plenty of small ladies will look like this for at least some part of her life.
Guess what?? It has nothing to do with how much you care about yourself or whether you eat like a fatty or anything else.
Guess what?? The only way to fix the "front butt" is surgery!!
All by way of saying, man I'm glad as hell I had my recent tummy tuck. Now I look like a skinny chick and all the shallow guys will be into me again! Yay!
And also by way of saying, it's all fine and good to say you prefer skinny chicks to fat chicks (however off-putting to some of us "chicks"). But whatever will you do when you promise to love and cherish that skinny chick for the rest of your life and she pops out a few kidlets and looks like Lady #3?
Because I'm pretty sure everyone would agree that ditching your post-partum wife because she's not skinny enough is about as shallow as you can get.
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@TheTheologiansCafe@xanga - Yes, that is me. And yes, I am fat, because I am sick and that happens sometimes when you're taking 20 different medications and your body stops working right and you are dying slowly. Funny how that works out. I was a star athlete before I got sick though, so it's not for lack of caring that I got fat, in case you're tempted to think that. I'm just dying. And yes. It's a very nice shirt. Brilliant save there. =/
You responded to my comment attempting to insult me. It was a poor attempt. But an attempt all the same. It is what it is. Technically I could say I just responded if you accused me of attacking you, but it would sort of be a lie, because while I DID simply respond to your comment, and it was a response, it wasn't not an attack. You saying you responded to my comment does not clear you of any guilt there, because responses to things aren't necessarily reasonable, or kind. It can really go any way.
"No offense but if that is your wife in your
profile pic, my wife is far more attractive and we have been married
almost 19 years. Several people on xanga have met my wife and they can
back me up on that. This is just based on the profile pic but I am
pretty sure she is 60 pounds lighter than your wife too."
That was a serious low blow. Honestly there was absolutely no need to verbally abuse somebody on a personal level like that. Who cares how attractive or skinny your wife is because it's not your looks that are getting you into Heaven.
@AGreatPerhaps@xanga - Regardless of what anybody has to say about you, don't even take it personally. You're a beautiful woman as is every other woman regardless of shape or size.
Um...I have those things, and I haven't had a child. I peaked at 160, and I'm 5' 2" (120 now, and STILL got them. So...no?).
@GorgeousBRUTALITY@xanga - Thank you. But to be honest, I'm used to it. I get that I'm not pretty or thin, and I am treated like crap for it on a daily basis. There are things that matter more though. I'm not sure I have those things either, but I think they may be something more worth aiming for.
@AGreatPerhaps@xanga - Society's standards are unrealistic, even "pretty" girls are called ugly and fat. Unfortunately people can't just respect one another, there always has to be some sort of criticism. There is A LOT more worth aiming for than the way that we look, life is temporary and these bodies of ours are left behind.
@GorgeousBRUTALITY@xanga - It's a shame that somehow people have this obsessive focus on how someone looks, because I know plenty of people who have so much to give that matters so much more who are held back by the ridiculous discrimination towards people who are overweight or "unattractive" in some other way. And I don't know that I have anything else to give... but then I might if I was held back a little less by the expectations people set for girls my age. I'm seventeen and not skinny, so people feel the need to "punish" me for it. Maybe if they stopped getting in my way, I could contribute more to society.
"Are so many people so stupid?"
Apparently yeeess.
If you'd ever read Dan's blog for an extended period of time you'd know from his post then when being taught to write he was taught to use a technique that involves supporting the side opposite of yours in order to get people's attention. Dan isn't a bad guy. I doubt that he has anything against plus sized woman or PP woman. If you want to see some awesome PP pics & read an awesome blog you should check out milfncookies. It seems like this blog is a lot more about being PP more than anything else?
Also, lots of people hate dan because they don't know this or care if that's the case. *shrug*
Also, you should read this post by him: http://thetheologianscafe.xanga.com/748583912/stretch-marks/?=itemrelated
If your skeptic about if Dan sometimes post things that arn't necessarily his view.
Ohmyghod. I'm going to have front butt for the rest of my life after I have children.
I NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY. Oh ghod. I can never unknow that.
@TheTheologiansCafe@xanga - my mother is 45 and she not anywhere near fat like that and she gave birth to 3 children that are adults now. she works out and she never over indulges herself.
i dont get why people are so offended. some people look like that even when they haven't given birth
Who is Dan?
Before I had my daughter, I had strong abdominal muscles from crunches and other exercises. My stomach returned to normal and then I lost weight running after her when she reached the toddler years. I never expected that.
@KNEESOXROCK@xanga - NO you do NOT have to have front butt for the rest of your life. That is a condition called diastasis recti, and I blogged about it here http://www.momaroo.com/744201684/diastasis-and-my-mommy-belly/
"Are so many people so stupid?"
YES. Yes they are. I applaud this post. I haven't had kids yet, but I have put my body through a lot of weight changes, so I have some stretch marks and things will not look perfect even when I do have defined abs and all that shizz. People need to fuck off and worry about their own imperfections before writing entire posts criticizing other people's.
@AGreatPerhaps@xanga - Bravo for maintaining a mature attitude when ridiculously personally attacked. Some people are like "Oh, wah wah, Dan is just being sarcastic, people don't understand him and he's actually a really nice guy."
Okay, well. I kicked an innocent puppy this morning because its fur was too short and I think short-haired dogs are ugly. But I'm still a nice girl, it's just my preference to kick that puppy. That's the exact same logic, and it's stupid (btw, just an example, I do NOT kick puppies or any animals or people!!). People can be sarcastic without being rude, narcissistic assholes, and the comments he made to you just say "asshole." Some of us can see right through the "I wasn't attacking you, that's merely my preference" bullshit to see the extremely not nice person underneath. Having a preference is not wrong or shallow. Acting like a dick to people who don't fit your preference IS shallow.
Sigh...it sounds like you have to put up with a lot of crap from people, and it's too bad. I felt the same way when I was overweight (well, I still am, but when I was more overweight, lol). There is more to life, FAR more in fact, than appearance, and it's unfortunate that so many people choose that to focus on. What a petty and shallow way to view the world and live life.
I have a dark line from my belly button to my underwear line and I was never pregnant. So it doesn't always mean pregnancy
Posthumerously, I'm thankful this got my attention because I never knew about diastasis and its rehabilitation, and now I'm kinda excited I have a chance to fix this little problem on my own, even years after having had only one child. And also, sadly, my first husband couldn't look at me without literally gagging like he'd throw up when he saw me in a nightie after having a child, which has affected the rest of my life. When my second husband finally found that out, he got so angry about it, said there was *nothing* wrong with me and men who have a problem with something like that are mean. It's interesting to note that I found out my first husband was a pedophile before I ever met him (which makes ME nearly throw up), and I can't help wondering how that affects how he sees women.
So I just looked at the picture, and I've seen plenty of childless women look like that or worse. The dark line just looks like a treasure trail or something....
Note the gross cellulite on her legs? Plenty of people get pregnant without....
Carrying a 7/8 lbs baby is no excuse to eat everything and gain 50 pounds.
Wow you're sensitive.
Not to mention, surgery is not the only way you get rid of the fat on your belly, don't be absurd. You're making excuses for yourself. A coworker of mine has been popping out kids for the past 5 years non stop and she's still in better shape than I am. The point is she takes care of herself.
People can't help what they're attracted to, why hate them for it? If a man leaves his wife/the mother of his children for any reason that's his own issue. I'm not justifying it, especially since I can't speak for all cases and situations, but you seem a bit bitchy right now.
And you also seem new - if you don't understand Dan's sarcasm by now then you might as well just give up on writing posts about what he writes.
where is this dan's post
theres plenty of girls like the one in dans post that have never had a child. and having a child is no excuse to gain that kind of weight.... that doesn't look like some extra skin hanging around from her "small" frame being stretched to hold a child. that looks like fat to me. whether she was overweight before or gained a lot of weigh during pregnancy is irrelevant.
and also. side note from my boyfriend "if you are going to leave you're body like that then you must not care about your husbands feelings. do you think your husband wants you to look like that? its one thing to look like that just after a baby, but if its been a few years, they need to get it together."
i have a "Front butt". i'm 15. never pregnant.