Dan just stirs things up in order to get attention, I don't think he actually cares about... anyone but himself, or people, or logic. That whole post is ridiculous, because the thing people were originally calling shallow wasn't even just a guy liking skinny girls, it was the fact he pretty much just spoke about them as if they weren't human and "shallow" is the nice way to refer to that sort of disgusting behavior. I mean, like Dan could get his pick of VS models anyway... doubtful. Nor could most guys on xanga for that matter. Let them dream. Honestly, I doubt a lot of them could probably find a respectable women to have a kid with, because a lot of them are that sort of ridiculous, illogical, rude scum and therefore they don't have to worry about that sort of thing, I doubt the relationship will make it that far if they don't grow up.

I think people forget or maybe just never learn about what kind of hell pregnancy can put the human body through. And some men have ridiculous expectations period. So it's no surprise they somehow don't expect a woman to be "fat" after having a child. I don't know what goes on in some people's heads sometimes, if anything, but while this post speaks volumes I feel like those it's probably meant for won't be hearing it.

Why is this a momaroo post? Keep the fight where it belongs. The less it's talked about, the less power Dan's words have.

^ I agree. I think Dan's posts are very thought-provoking. I feel like his point was proven through the "shallow" responses. Your title is misleading, because it seems like you're attacking Dan, although I feel like your post should be criticizing his viewers. 

Actually, the front butt as you call it is called diastasis recti. And it is definitely fixable without surgery. You have to rehabilitate the muscles. The abdominals are not the only muscle in the body which you cannot rehabilitate.
I have written about this here at momaroo before. Look up the Tupler Technique, it is a diastasis rehab program. You do not have to have surgery to look well again.

Also, pregnancy is not an excuse to become unhealthy. You don't have to lose all self control and gain 40, 50, 60+ lbs. I blogged about that recently, too, and got land-blasted by a lot of readers for saying it. I have had 2 kids, and I weigh 112, at 5'1. Do I look like pic 1, no. I am rehabilitating my diastasis to put my muscles back together - for the HEALTH of it. Fitness and weight are two different things.

@Brilliant_Innocence@xanga - @AGreatPerhaps@xanga - thanks for your comment!  @Joobie82@xanga - they sent me a message asking if they could post it.  so I said yes.  I don't know how that usually works.@Escargotpudding@xanga - @storyofmylife87@xanga - Dan and I messaged privately about it and we have no issue between us.  I titled it "Dan's Fat Chick" because I originally wrote it for Xanga and it was the fastest way to clue everyone in to what I was talking about.  But yes, it was aimed at the commenters.  @sarahsmurfette@xanga - congratulations on your rehabilitation and your weight!  I have no problem with your opinion.  My experience was a lot different.  I am in my 40s and could not recover from the 3rd c-section after 5 years of effort.  I agree fitness and weight are two different things, though related.  @WaitingToShrug@xanga - I definitely wouldn't pretend such a thing.  However it was obvious to me that the picture was a woman posing post-partum.  I have no comment about whether she was healthy or unhealthy during pregnancy...don't feel it's my place to judge, having been pregnant five times.  But comparing a post-partum woman to a model seems a little...extreme.

@ordinarybutloud@xanga - I also had a cesarean and an umbilical hernia. The hernia was not painful, just a bulge that came and went. It is not unlike umbilical hernias that some infants are born with. My son had one when he was born from immature, unconnected abdominal muscles. Surgical fix is not required or recommended for that either unless the hernia is trapping intestines. As their abdominals strengthen, for instance when my son started walking, the hernia reduced and closed on it's own. My diastasis did the same thing as I did (still doing) this rehab program. My hernia closed within the first 2 weeks. It is not a true hernia. Usually hernias like this are from separated muscles unsupporting the abdominal contents. I don't know that is what yours was, but I'm guessing maybe yours was worse or painful to require a surgical fix. There are lots of before and after pics/testimonies on the maternalfitness.com website. Hernia reductions included.

@ordinarybutloud@xanga - I'm convinced that most hernias/diastasti like this don't just close on their own. They have to be rehabilitated. This does not mean abdominal workouts, as those make the problem worse. I am a medical professional with 12 yrs experience. My drs, both my Ob/Gyns and my primary care physician were not educated on this matter and suggested the only thing they knew which was surgery. They did not consider physical therapy type treatments, which is what the rehab is. I had to use the medical knowledge I had and my research skills to (discouragedly) navigate this. And it took a long time because it's hard to separate the truth from the hype. I just want others to know that surgery is not required, although I'm sure you are happy with your result, at least I hope you are. First of all, not many of us have the funds to pay out of pocket. Smaller mummy tummies are not only for the wealthier of us. That's all I wanted to let people know.

@ordinarybutloud@xanga - I just want to point out the Tupler Technique program is $80. Much less than surgery or even a personal trainer.

The post was based on another post and he said he preferred thin women sexually.  I was just asking what people thought about that.  I am sorry I messed up the world view of all of those who did not know that some men prefer thin women sexually.

@AGreatPerhaps@xanga - "I doubt a lot of them could probably find a respectable

to have a kid with, because a lot of them are that sort of ridiculous,
illogical, rude scum and therefore they don't have to worry about that
sort of thing, I doubt the relationship will make it that far if they
don't grow up."

No offense but if that is your wife in your profile pic, my wife is far more attractive and we have been married almost 19 years.  Several people on xanga have met my wife and they can back me up on that.  This is just based on the profile pic but I am pretty sure she is 60 pounds lighter than your wife too.

My husband has stuck with me through skinny and fat.  Because he loves me.

I've never been pregnant and I have never seen a woman's belly after she gave birth, so I personally wouldn't know the difference. I guess that mean's I'm stupid.

@joyouswind@xanga - I guess that would depend.  If you see a woman with a really big belly but the rest of her looks normal, do you turn to your friend and say, "wow, she really needs to take better care of herself?"    And I'm kidding.  Just kidding.  Wow, people are sensitive over here on momaroo.