Thursday, 19 May 2011
My little monkey is almost four weeks old, and everything seems to be going really well with him! He is more alert during the day and starting to coo and squawk, not just cry! He's eating like a horse and seems to be growing well.
The only complaint I have since giving birth is the complete lack of support from my family in regards to breast feeding. I did a lot of reading while I was pregnant and right after baby B's birth about feeding options and learned a lot about formula versus breast feeding.
I was amazed to learn different facts and statistics about formula and decided that, if possible, breast feeding is what's best for me and my baby. Hubby is fully supportive of breast feeding and actually excited because that means that he won't be getting up for night feedings!
Neither my mom nor my mother-in-law breastfed for any length of time, and my older sister tried to breast feed her two kids but was unsuccessful and decided to switch to formula after a very short time. I had read that the inability to breast feed was NOT genetic and so there was no good reason why I couldn't be successful even if they weren't. But, my choice has definitely hit some raw nerves with those women in my lives.
My mom and MIL aren't opposed to breast feeding, just passive-aggressively encouraging me to supplement and use formula. For example: even after asking every time she calls (daily, sometimes several times daily) how breast feeding is going, she still sends us formula coupons. Both her and my mom think baby is eating too often (he's eating every 2 hours or so during the day and every 3-4 at night) and that I should supplement to "fix" this.
My mom last night on the phone said that he should be sleeping through the night by now and he would if I'd just give him formula. She also asked if he's grown out of his newborn clothes yet and suggested that if he hasn't he must not be growing enough so I should be giving him formula.
My research about breast feeding tells me that as long as he is having 3-4 poopy diapers a day that he is getting plenty to eat. Yesterday he had 8. EIGHT! And, to put my worries about night time feedings to bed (haha) he slept from 10:30 to 5 AM last night. I guess I just need to get used to defending my parenting choices early, because this will definitely not be the last time I butt heads with either my mom or MIL. UGH!
Are your relatives supportive of your parenting choices? How did you deal with unsupportive ones?