Before I begin, let me just say that this post was written in anger, disgust and sadness. So please excuse and blunt sentences, overuse of exclamations and maybe even slight confusion of my rambling... I was watching this show about orphans around the world, and it was SO amazingly sad. Sad that you have to wait 3 or 4 years just to be approved of adoption. Unless you're a celebrity - a heterosexual celebrity.
How many children and babies have died from starvation and been sold off for sex trade during that 4 years?
Some of the laws are so slack.
Single people are more than capable of looking after a child. I am a single mother, my child has clean clothes, cleans sheets, a nice house, plenty or food, and plenty of love and attention! They want the children being adopted to be put into what they consider a proper family "Husband and wife." I really, really doubt that those kids sitting in a cot all day staring at a wall, starving, with soiled nappies, really actually care about that! Do they actually care about a mansion and a daddy or mummy who earn $1million a year? All this crap that's got to do with adoption is so bloody useless! Sure the people wanting to adopt out should have checks and assessments, but why not make it take one year instead of 4?
These children get taken off their families in exchange for rice and money (in Cambodia they get a $20) and get adopted out to families, which is alright, except it's all done illegally, and the people who adopt them out get about $10,000 for them. The demand for adopting children in those countries is very high, and since they can't find enough orphans to adopt out, they go to people's homes and buy their babies off them.This lady from USA went through the process of adoption and she decided on a Russian male. A couple of years later they told her that they'd had a baby picked out for her, so she went over and met him and etc.
When she finally got this baby, her and her husband took him back to their motel in Russia, and were looking after him. They gave him a bottle and he only drank half a bottle in half and hour. After that they went and changed his nappy and found a huge, crazily infected nappy rash all over his bottom.
In the video she said they were treating it. So they took him out into the lounge room and laid him on the lounge and she was saying how his eyes just all of a sudden dilated and were fixed on nothing, then he took this BIG breath, exhaled, and never took another breath again!The government thinks they are protecting the children by making sure that the people adopting them out are good enough, but they are just giving those children a death sentence by letting them just lay there and die in their cots because it's taking years from someone to adopt them out.
If by chance they actually survive, they are already 5 years old. Not many people want to adopt out a 5 year old that may already have behavioral issues or mental issues, or has already bonded with someone else and, consequently, won't bond with them. So, they go without families, for the time being, or until they end up dying. It's so sick, and so so so sad. If I could adopt, I would do it in a heart beat. All kids need to be loved. Imagine how much one of those children would thrive if it got a kiss and a cuddle everyday for the rest of it's life instead of being fed, maybe changed and that's it for the day.The government and people who make these laws are ridiculous. I know they think they are doing what's right, but obviously they aren't, and if you look into how real orphanages work, especially those in countries like Russia and China, you would see how horrible it is, and how these children and babies, new born babies are neglected and left to wither away in their cots.
In Russia alone there are 180,000 orphaned children. They need to change the laws so that, you have to be deemed responsible to care for a child, but it doesn't take several years to be completed. The government is just giving these poor kids a death sentence by dragging the process out for so long. Kids just need to be LOVED and looked after.
Gay, single or disabled, I'm sure there are many doctors and astronauts out their who had two Dad's or a single Mother who lived on the pension and who grew up to be completely normal, looked after, adults. MANY!!!!!!
Do you feel like adoption laws discriminate against gay, single and disabled adoptive parents? How could these laws be changed to benefit children waiting for adoption?